Just got engaged! Now how to start planning?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@SimplyEuphoric:  Thank you for posting this! I just got engaged and I have NO clue where to start.

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Post # 4
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Congratulations!

I don’t know if you are based in the US, UK or elsewhere, I am in the UK and have just started using hitched.co.uk it has budget planning, ready made check list, you can make mood boards, add venues, create/manage guest lists and seating plans etc. It also had great links. You may be able to use this if your not in the UK or I’m sure there is something simular. 

As for things not online and a physical journal/planner I’m not too sure. 

Post # 5
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

First of all… CONGRATULATIONS! Enjoy that happy, floaty lovey feeling for as long as you can without feeling like you have to set a date tomorrow.

With that out of the way, I recommend setting a general budget first, and really figure out where the money is going to come from (you, parents, future in-laws), and what you have to work with before making any other decisions.

Then, talk with your FI to determine a rough wedding date. Take into account the season you want to be married in, what your work schedules are like, when are you busiest, etc. Narrow it down to a range of about a month. This will be crucial when looking at venues who may have the first Saturday you picked booked, but not the weekend after.

Also, if there was anything that immediately came to you and your FI’s minds when you think “Our Wedding,” keep it in mind. DH and I looked at each other 12 hours after getting engaged and said in unison, “Pig roast!” We had one, and it wouldn’t have been us any other way. This set us on a course where we found a caterer first, and then had to only look at venues that would allow outside caterers. One thing will lead to another.

There’s a lot of excitement and stress ahead, but it is all worth it, I promise you that!

Post # 7
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2517 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SimplyEuphoric:  Pick a budget, guest count, then venue! 🙂 Good Luck and enjoy!!

Post # 8
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825 posts
Busy bee

1) Congratulations! And enjoy being just engaged with no planning stress for a couple days.

2) Talk to each of your families (he talks to his and you talk to yours) and ask them how they’d like to be involved in the planning process. Do they want to throw you an engagement party? Is it important to your FMIL that she comes with you dress shopping? Is there any month/weekend that is strictly off limits for your wedding? E-mail/call them in advance so they have a chance to talk about it between themselves.

3) Create a Google Doc Spreadsheet with four tabs. Your guests. Your FI’s guests. Your Parents Wish List and Your FIL’s Wish List. You’re not going to want to get your heart set on a venue that isn’t going to be able to hold the number of people you want/can afford.

4) Talk with your FI and hash out a rough budget. The Knot and Weddingwire (and the Bee!) have great checklists of things you shouldn’t forget in budgeting: such as tips for vendors, marriage license, etc. as well as what the breakdown of costs should ideally be.

5) Start calling up venues! Ask for a wedding brochure if they don’t have prices online and ask for an appointment to see it. We planned them all on one day. Make sure to make room for a lunch or dinner with your FI (and parents if they’re coming) to discuss the pros and cons.

Post # 9
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SimplyEuphoric:  First off Congratulations! Second-Weddingbee is your new best friend! Great info on here but also some other sites are great, weddingwire.com is my first choice for planning. It gives you a great check list, budget tracker, & guest list tracker! 

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