Just got hit with some irrational insecurity/sadness

posted 3 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Sometimes I go sit at cafes with my laptop and finish up some work.  I find it much more relaxing than doing work in my hotel room.  I enjoy the atmosphere and I do love people watching.

I think you are just being paranoid.  I am sure everything is fine and he is just winding down from a busy day! 🙂

Post # 5
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@worldtraveler:  Glad to hear that! I was going to say, it wouldn’t be weird for me to go sit at a cafe and people watch and have a drink. Especially if I”m lonely in another country. And, men tend to not think much about that type of thing where as we tend to be like “omg if he’s not at his room caling me he must be thinking something is wrong omg omg”, but in his mind he probably just wants to relax for a minute. 🙂

Post # 6
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Long distance kind of lends itself to that kind of thinking. I know my brain tends to go there, and I’m in the same country as my SO. I don’t know if this would help, but I keep a list of the “reasons I know he loves me.” Just any little thing that he does that makes me feel loved. Then if I’m feeling insecure, I can go back and look at it and it makes me feel better. It sounds like there’s not anything serious going on, so just remind yourself of the positive things and ride out the insecurity. I’m glad you talked and you feel better!

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