Post # 1
with my husband. We were in our spare bedroom and had an argument/disagreement/fight and he stormed off to our bedroom. I just went by after close to an hour and the light is off and the door is shut. I’m now mad that he just ran away instead of discussing and figuring this out. Should I chase him down like a little kid? or just wait our here and see if he comes out (or if he wakes up)? Sleep out in here?
He usually gives in after like 5 minutes and we work it out… Doesn’t seem like that is happening tonight.
Post # 3
First off I wouldn’t let him run me out of my own bed. I would go crawl in the bed and go to sleep. When morning comes tell him he is an adult so you two should be able to have an adult conversation and work it out. Sorry hun! 🙁
Post # 4
Sleep it off and talk in the morning if you can. They say it’s not good to go to bed angry, but when it’s close to bed time, people can be really crancky and say things that they don’t want to say.
Post # 5
Aww honey! Big hugs to you. My Darling Husband never lets me huff and puff, no matter how bad our argument. The best advice we ever got from his father on our wedding day was this: “Never go to bed angry. Always remember, no matter how hard it gets, to say ‘i love you’.”
My guess is that, if he’s anything like me, he’s in there hoping you’ll go in and try to talk?
Post # 6
Sorry OP! That must be extremely frustrating. I would not sleep in the spare bedroom though.
Post # 7
We always do work out our disagreements before bed because we never want to go to bed angry, and we always will kiss each other good night. So this is really weird for us… At dinner earlier (before this happened) I was telling him about a bee on here that was mad at her fiance for something and overreacted and he said “I’m glad we never have big fights like that”… and now, 3 hours later, here we are!
Post # 8
@Monkey786: Awe OP it happens. I would go into the room and go to bed next to him.
Post # 9
I’m like that too, and recently we had an argument for the stupidest reason. I don’t remember the reason, that’s how stupid it ws. I went to bed angry and voila, I wasn’t angry when I woke up. If it was something that can wait until tomorow, just wait, cool off and talk in the morning.
No one can say, that our SO would never do something like that because we can only talk for ourselves. We can not say what other people will or will not do, we can only hope and expect.
I’m sure you two will work it out in the morning.
Post # 10
@pengoala: This is us %100. We NEVER go to bed angry.
To the OP though it sounds like he already did? OR Maybe he is waiting on you?
Post # 11
My Darling Husband and I don’t really fight either but sometimes were just in bad moods and it all comes apart. For some reason this usually happens when one of us is extremely tired and we’ll just go to sleep without the other half. Honestly we both talked about it and agreed when that does happen which has been something like 3 times in the past 3 years were just laying there waiting for the other one to come to bed and hope we initiate cuddles. Were both super stubborn but once I wrap my arms around him or he wraps his arms around me were fine. It’s not he won or I won it’s just over and we fall asleep all warm and fuzzy. He could be waiting for you to just come in and lay down. I think most people reach a point in the argument where they just want to forget it and go to bed so maybe that had nothing to do with trying to hurt or confuse you he just wanted to turn it off for the night.
Post # 12
Sweet.Sugar.Rose: (Reply # 2) —> THIS
End of day disagreements / tiffs / arguments / fights are the worst…
And they do happen
As NICE as it sounds to never go to bed angry… it can and does happen to most couples from time to time
Chances are he’s fallen asleep (can you see light under the door?)
I not a big one to say “make a point” and sleep on the couch…
I’d say go to bed (it is your bed too), and then discuss it when you are both rested.
Good Luck (( HUGS ))
Post # 13
Honestly, I’m one of those people who just prefers to be left alone when I’m upset. Talking something to death just makes me really irriated. If we’re having a dissagreement and I storm off, I just want to be left alone to cool down. That doesn’t mean Darling Husband needs to go sleep in another room, it just means that for the current moment I don’t want him to follow me and pester me.
Darling Husband is someone who likes to “beat a dead horse”. If we talk about something, I feel like it’s been disccussed and done with….so let me be so I can “get over it”. Not him, he wants to talk until he’s blue in the face and that pisses me off.
Let him have his time, and when you’re ready for bed go in there and get in bed.
Post # 14
@amoret11: +1. Sleeping it off can do wonders. You will probably find that in the morning you have more patience to discuss the issues and they may not even seem so important anymore.
IMO going to bed angry is considerably less damaging to the relationship than staying up all night fighting and not making any progress because you’re both tired and angry.
Post # 15
Thanks bees! I went to bed and didn’t sleep too well cause I was still upset. When I woke up, I went straight into the bathroom and came out and he was like, are you mad at me? I’m like yes. He asked why. I said, why are you mad at me? He said, I’m not mad at you.
Apparently last night he thought we were done discussing what we were talking about so he went to brush his teeth (i had told him earlier his breath smelled from dinner, i’m sweet aren’t i) and I guess he just decided to lay down until I came in to get him to watch our TV show. I wasn’t aware of this…. and was waiting in the other room for him to come back. So yeah, we’re fine, problem solved 🙂 Thanks bees for your support as usual