Post # 1
When I look at my response cards , I hate the reply date on them. My FI pretty much stonewalled me into putting the reply date as April 25th which is not that far from now, which means I have to send the invites earlier than I wanted to. He wants to send the invites early so that he can invite others “the B list” as people call it, if we get some no’s. I know it’s tacky and I told him that it’s way , way too early, but he stood firm. Ugh I’m annoyed to no end. I totally forgot that we requested that date until now.
We do have a lot of out of town guests , and we also live on an island where mail is dependent on whether or not the ferries are crossing due to weather.. But still… Ugh. 6 weeks would have been better.
l have been reading older posts where a lot of members pretty much shot down a longer than 6 week RSVP date. so now I’m worried that our guests will feel rushed or thin. It’s crazy. Bleh. Is it such a big deal? What do you guys think?
other than that, my invites are exactly what I wanted. the designer did an amazing job on them!
EditEd for spelling
Post # 3
@brooke25: Is it semi-destination for anyone? Honestly I think up to 12 weeks is acceptable even if it’s not semi-dest for you. Stuff needs to be planned!!
Post # 4
I think it will be ok. At least you won’t have to wait last minute to hear back from people right? Ordering my invitations is my next thing to do. I have no clue where to go haha! I kinda know what I want though. I’m glad they are exactly what you wanted (except for the date of course)!
Post # 5
Honestly, you will get a bunch of them back as soon as you send them and the rest will trickle in. There are a ton of people who not even bother to send them back that you will have to chase down. An earlier date is fine.
Post # 6
@love108: well yes, I have quite a few friends and family flying in form other provinces and a few family members making a super long drive. So I guess that counts as semi destination
Post # 7
You’ll be fine. I had the same concern with mine (our family’s RSVP date is March 30th? I think) but about 70% will be traveling about 8 hours and the rest at least 2-3. There are also a handful who are flying in from out west and the US.
Post # 8
We’re sending invites early BC all of our guests have a 6-hr drive or a plane flight and all need hotel rooms. We’re also sending out our invites earlier BC we’re doing 2 waves of invites and want the 2nd wave to still have at least 3 months notice and a month to rsvp.
Btw doing a b- list or 2 waves of invites isn’t necessarily tacky. It is only tacky if you do things that make guests aware that they weren’t in the first round. For instance, any RSVP deadline you give guests must be a reasonable amt of time after the guest gets the invite and no guest should receive an invite too close to the wedding.