Just had a baby today

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t have any babies yet but I am sure others can share in being overwhemed and having lots of feels. Hang in there, I bet you will be snuggling your newborn soon!!

Post # 3
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Worker bee

First of all your situation sounds very overwhelming and difficult. I hope so badly for you that your fever stays away and you get to hold your baby girl close to you as soon as possible. For now just try to focus on the positives you have a beautiful, healthy baby girl just waiting for you, so put all your strength and energy into getting well so you can be with her. Congratulations.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

When I was born I was 2 weeks late, and they discovered that the amniotic fluid was leaking during that time, so there was a concern for my safety. My mom got to hold me for about 5 minutes before they whisked me away. I obviously don’t remember that, but she does and I’ve heard that story many times in my life.

As far as pumping goes, it can be difficult when you’re stressed out. Obviously you know you need to relax, but try not to stress yourself out further by thinking you’re failing. You’re not, it will come with time.

Feel better, I’m sure you’ll get to see your baby soon  

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Keekers:  Congratulations on the new baby!! Sorry it’s not playing out like you hoped. It must be very hard to be kept from her. Remember that you will be a bundle of emotions as your hormone levels change post partum.

First, ask the nurses if you wash your hands, wear a gown with long seeves and a mask if you can hold the baby.

Secondly, don’t get down on yourself about pumping. Your milk will not even come in to your breasts till about day 3-4. Colostrum is produced only in very small amounts- a teaspoon at a time. Sometimes hand expressing is easier for colostrum , but it can be a challenge to learn too.

Your baby’s tummy is about the size of a marble, so that’s all they need.

For the first month at least, just give yourself permisiion to be a new Mom, and feel free to ask questions here.

some other resources:

http://www.thenewbornbaby.com/breast-milk-production/index.html

La Leche

http://www.lllc.ca/best-breastfeeding-tips

http://kellymom.com/

 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Keekers:  It is important to pump or express every 2-3 hours. The more you do this or have the baby at the breast, the more signal your body gets to start making milk. It really doens’t matter which you do – choose whichever works best for you.

I always remember a line my Mom told me- Most of our babies do just fine in spite of us.

Lots of love to you and babe.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I wish I had some great advice to offer (julies1949 gave some great advice like she normally does!), but I just wanted to say congratulations, first, and second, major, major ::HUGS::. I know you are feeling overwhelmed right now and I’m so sorry you’re feeling these things while you’re all alone. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and my fingers will be crossed that you’ll be well enough to leave together. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  MrsYokiman.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Keekers:  I don’t have babies yet, but most of my friends do.  The annoying thing about life is, no matter how much we wish we can, we can’t control it.  I can imagine how frustrated you must feel…not being able to be with your new little sweetheart, but just hang in there, everything will be just fine.  It might not be the way you dreamed of, or pictured the first few days to be but soon enough everything will calm down, you will be all better and you will be snuggling up with your little angel around the clock 🙂  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keekers:  I am so sorry mama! I have a 9 month old and the experience of being a brand new mom and totally overwhelmed is still raw, but has since been replaced with much better feelings. 🙂 I had a planned c section (heart condition) and it was hard to be separated for what felt like many hours so I can only imagine what you are going through. I hope you can see your baby asap! Pumping sucked so bad. I was so engorged and baby couldn’t latch well at all so there was a lot of pain, worry and tears. I struggled too with the pumping at first and it felt like nothing was coming out, even after the early days. I remember crying a lot  in frustration. I know plenty of moms and babies overcome this (and you likely will!), but in my case we supplemented my breast milk for his first 7 months with formula and it was so agonizing for me at the time, but ultimately it was ok and he’s a healthy boy. 

I know you are going through sooo many emotions right now. Just try to be patient with yourself. Just know that your baby girl is doing fine and that you will be reunited soon! You will have many many years together! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can completely understand how you feel. My son (first baby) was born at 7:30 pm on a Sunday and I was too sick to be with him. Severe complications from Pre-eclampsia, they actually put me under for the c-section. I woke up in the ICU. They told me they could not bring babies in, so I did not get to meet my son until 10 am the following day. Everyone told me about him and showed me pictures and I remember how devastated I was that he was mine and I was the only one who hadn’t met him yet.

You have every right to feel the way you do and hormones only intensify everything. Just know you are going to get those moments with your baby soon. You have to be ok so that your baby girl will be ok. You will still get to bond with her and she will know who her Mom is. It doesn’t make it any better now, I know, but you will still get to experience every other “first” with her and your FI. 

Hang in there. It will all get better. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

I’m so sorry to hear about the unexpected complications. Make sure you share these feelings with everyone (staff, your fiance, your MIL, internet people) and let it all out as I’m worried this could turn into post-partum depression. Take this time to rest and heal and get better… I’m sure the hormones makes sure this short time goes by in a blur and then you have the rest of your life to share with your little one!! Such an exciting life change! And huge congratulations by the way!!! ::hugs::

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Congratulations On your little girl, I hope among all the hormonal ups and downs that you are proud of yourself for bringing a little life into the world today!

I just wanted to tell you that when it comes to the expressing do it YOUR way, your milk will not flow if your feeling stressed and anxious but it will if your comfortable, relaxed and thinking about your baby. As a midwife I spend every working day with breast feeding mothers and mums that have babies in Intensive care. Whether you have your baby with you or not it comes with it’s challenges and I never get my women pumping until at least 48 hours after birth because hand expressing is SO SO much more effective when trying to express colostrum.

My advice would be to hand express 3 hourly and when your milk comes in (usually day 3) that’s when you can use the pump, hopefully by then anyway you’ll be breast feeding and won’t need to pump. Also don’t feel disheartened if you don’t get much in the first few days, most women can get between 0.2 and 1ml of colostrum the first few times they do it and those amounts are NORMAL, pumping will likely get you less. Also if you have lost 500mls or more of blood at your delivery your body is likely to be dry and slow to produce milk. Take the pressure off yourself, listen to your body and focus on seeing your little girl tomorrow.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Hey congrats on your little girl. When my baby was born he was taken away with fever and brought into me later, however the painkillers they gave me were so heavy I slept 12 hours. I couldn’t walk either. 

Also I found manual pumping much easier, I felt like I had more control. I hated the big machine thing. Maybe your fi can grab you a manual pump from a pharmacy. 

Try and rest as much as you can and don’t worry. You need this time to catch up on sleep and get your head around everything. Is there no way your fi can stay home a few days? Or maybe ask his mum for more help. It can be very overwhelming and nice to have someone to talk to. Xx 

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