Just had first birth control appointment. . bit traumatic. :/

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Congratulations for waiting! It does get better, though it will never be something I look forward to.  I have my “annual” visit this week and I’m dreading it. We just got married and I’m thinking about getting the IUD (switching from bc pills) and I’m so nervous to even ask questions. 

Post # 5
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry you didn’t have a good experience!  I’m surprised she said your only options were pills or the shot – there are lots of other options.  I was on the shot for a little over a year when I first became sexually active.  I didn’t gain any weight with it at all, but I did have severe spotting.  For about the first 6-9 months, it was just a little bit, but after that, it was so severe that I basically had light bleeding throughout the entire month!  I don’t mean to scare you, I know people that have had a good experience with the shot.  Good luck! 

Post # 6
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

The first time is always a little traumatic. Honestly I think looking at is a doing something good for your body always helps me relax and come to terms with it!I just had mine a couple weeks ago…she asked me if I wanted the pap done (can wait 2-3 years inbetween at my age), and I said no! But then she said she still had to do the pelvic exam…and I said, “if you’re already going to be down there, then let’s do it!”

I’m sorry you decided to go for the shot. It has some very detrimental side-effects, and I hope they started you on calcium supplements to prevent some of those.

Luckily, when you go back in 3 months, they just give you the shot! No physical exam.

Post # 7
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9903 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katiecat08:  Paps are never fun but they definitely get easier. 

Post # 9
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@katiecat08:  As Bibbleskip said, they do get easier.  Remember: it may feel weird, but it’s the best thing for your body.  

Post # 10
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Lol at your update! I say the same to my FI…who hasn’t been to a doctor in over a decade! Jerk! He can’t even be bothered to go get a physical…nevermind having them scrape inside of you! Grr!

Also, we call it “going to see the doctor who should atleast buy you lunch before she touches you like that.” Just trying to add a little humor to the situation 🙂 Also, it honestly was probably harder for you, as a virgin…at least my lady bits had already been explored!

 

Post # 12
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898 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@katiecat08:  That’s how I felt at my first pap because I was only 14 and my mom made me go get one. It was shitty. They DO get easier to handle.

Post # 13
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4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry you had a rough time of it! But over time, it will get so routine and easy that going to the gyno is no more traumatic than going to get your teeth cleaned at the dentist. I had a pretty traumatic birth experience with my daughter, which meant LOTS of follow-up appointments with many eyes and hands and tools down there, and I never even batted an eyelash because I’ve been going to the gyno for years so it’s no big thing. Eventually, you won’t even remember the way you’re feeling right now, promise! 🙂

Post # 14
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry it was a sucky dayy. But now it’s over! And it gets easier the next time. And it really is for the best. Medical care is hardly ever fun, but it’s the right thing to do!

Post # 15
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3989 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As a PP mentioned, there are SO many other options besides the pill and the shot. (Having kids and not having had kids has nothing to do with those options…)

If you were that uncomfortable and she provided you with the above limited information, I may consider seeing another Dr.

Post # 16
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You need a new gyno–You have WAY more option than pills or shot!

What about the patch, what about Implanion (which goes in your arm and is good for 3 years)?

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