just had to get this out

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@beebeebee1111:  Just reading the beginning of your post I was like oh I’m gonna tell this girl to not wait, but I see some time has passed. You should always do what’s right for you, but unfortunately you put your needs behind theirs. I hope you get a BFP soon.

Post # 4
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6504 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

@beebeebee1111:  That’s why you do what makes you happy. Live life for you and your DH not for others. They have a life to live. It’s hard to make everyone happy and most importantly-be happy and guilt-free. I really wish you get your BFP soon, and I am sure you will. 

Post # 5
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry you’re in this crappy situation! That really sucks.

How long have you been TTC? I’m sure you’ll get your BFP soon!

Post # 6
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@beebeebee1111:  

i get it– and i’d be sad as well. ttc can be so unpredictable, but just focus on your journey and perhaps share your feelings with your mom to get some of the resent off your chest and to vent. it’s okay to feel the way you  do.

Post # 8
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4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@beebeebee1111:  I’m really sorry you are going through this. Going forward, definitely put you and your DH’s wishes ahead of those of your family. I don’t think you mom ever should have asked you to hold off- it really wasn’t her place to say anything. FX you get your bfp soon:)

Post # 9
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@beebeebee1111:  I’m sorry that happened to you! What is done is done but I’m sure you’ll have a lovely baby soon, and look on the brightside: you got some extra time to enjoy being a newlywed which is also very exciting! 

I don’t get the whole taking attention away. Me and FI got engaged a month or so after FSIL announced her pregnancy and she got all upset because she thinks we are stealing the limelight…  I mean I think if you were trying to conceive and your brother’s wedding is coming up I would avoid getting pregnant nine months before so I’m not due the same month of the wedding but otherwise I don’t see the issue.

anyway best of luck with TTC!

Post # 10
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@beebeebee1111:  Ugh – i am annoyed at them for you!  Just continue to jump on your husband everytime you see him.  It will happen when it is meant to.  We are TTC now – and everyone is getting pregnant or has babies around me.  My SIL is pregnant with baby 2 and it is so hard to be around them.  Especially since everyone knows we are trying. 

Post # 11
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@beebeebee1111:  That’s so annoying that your mom and friend did that to you. I am so not a fan of that ‘stealing someone’s thunder’ line of thinking- there should be enough joy to go around that people could both be happy for your brothers wedding and happy if you had gotten pregnant. Try to let it go at this point bc holding on to resentment now isn’t going to help you get pregnant. I’ll be honest though, I would def have given my mom a piece of my mind. I hope you get a bfp soon!

 

Post # 12
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@beebeebee1111:  aw I’m sorry Hun 🙁 I hope you get your BFP soon!!

Post # 13
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2311 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh! I am really sorry to hear that you are going through this. I hope you get you BFP soon. And I also hope you learned your lesson not to listen to everyone else especially when it comes to critical life changing events like TTC. And especially for YOU since you and hubby have such conflicting schedules.

Post # 14
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am very sorry that you haven’t gotten pregnant yet, I hope you get your BFP very soon.  I would feel the same way you do toward your brother, mother, and bf.  Not fair 🙁

Post # 15
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500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@beebeebee1111: Aw, man, hun–this just plain sucks. I would be just as disheartened as you. I wish you would have posted this before so that we all could have convinced you not to wait. Never do anything in life based solely on what others want from you, it’ll NEVER get you where you need to be. 

Does your best friend and brother know that you guys are struggling with TTC? If so, they need to respect you and DEFINITELY not bring it up around you constantly. Ugh, I just feel so sad for you 🙁 **hugs**

Post # 16
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5483 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@beebeebee1111:  This isn’t helpful, but that’s really lame, for the record. Who the f asks someone else not to get pregnant so they can have more attention??? Weird, very weird. I’d feel upset too, if I were you!!!!

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