Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
So I recently put a post up regarding my new job offer, which is a big step up, more money, better organisation and prospects for me moving forward. So hapy with my decision to move and am doing heaps of prep etc, but today came the dreaded ‘handing in resignation’. My boss is a little tricky, he is French and therefore can be a little blunt and also stand-offish but we generally get on OK. I think he has known that I haven’t been that happy in my role for a little while so wasn’t shocked, however he did then feel the need to lay into me a bit. Saying that I knew what the job was, you may have misunderstood XYZ, you need to work hard and put in effort to make anything work etc etc. When I originally started I was under the management of another director, from my first telephone interview and throughout the first 3-4 months I was under a different immpression of the role, it was very greenfield and a new position to the company therefore it was hard for anyone to predict how it would an out.
It was when the new director took over and as his team is more sales focussed he started pushing me into a role I wasn’t hired to do. Either way, sometimes things don’t work out, for whatever reason – however I have always worked hard. I am always the first on in the office in the morning, over an hour before I am due to start, I often work through lunch and have always put my everything into work (I have been in employment since I was 15 – I’m now 26 – and have always had fantastic references). I admit that while not being happy for months, I tried to put my all in by in the last few weeks it’s just trailed off and I have found motivation hard, bit still did my job, still came in early etc.
I then found that one of my colleagues and good friends who I privatley confided in about not being happy and lookign to leave and told about my job offer (she is also not happy) decided to tell my boss I may be leaving, so I got some nasty jabs in the resignation meeting that ‘on a personal level I ‘shouldn’t broadcaste leaving before handing in my notice’ – which I did not, now this has left a bad taste in both our mouths for different reasons!
I now have some follow up meeting, reports, handover material, hiring a replacement etc but now have that hard 4 week trawl of various people being unhappy with me that I am leaving, having lost respect for me not through my own fault and generally really akward workplace!
Sorry a bit of a rant but I obviously can’t speak to anyone else about it who may understand! FI is going through a tough time with him work at the moment so don’t wan’t to rant to him!
Post # 3
I hear you. Last year, I left a job I’d been at for pretty much my entire “adult” working life, and working out my 4-week notice was incredibly awkward. My boss started pointedly ignoring me the moment I put in my notice and only spoke to me when absolutely necessary, which I really wouldn’t have cared about but it was painfully obvious to everyone else. Now, this lady wasn’t the one who hired me–I had been in the department longer than anybody else, including her, so it wasn’t like we’d worked together for years and years and I suddenly decided to jump ship. The reason I left was (mostly) to do with her unprofessional attitude so I guess I should have expected it, but…yeah. I breathed a huge sigh of relief at 5 pm on my last day there. You’ll get through it, I promise, even though it seems like forever right now.
Post # 4
@UKbee: Hang in there, it’ll be ok. I had a similar problem, and when I finally turned in my notice I felt like it was going to be super awkward. In the end, it was only slightly weird and they were minimally rude in the weeks leading up to my end date.
Post # 5
Yuck, that sounds like an annoying situation. It’s a shame your co-worker blabbed.
Your boss is probably upset that he has to replace you and is taking out his frustration onto you.
Just remember this is temporary, and you’re on your way to bigger and better things!
You don’t owe them anything- you gave your notice and you are training the next person…so you really don’t owe them anything more.
Post # 6
In 2013 i started my dream job at a veterinary practise. The owner and manager was like a role model to be and real life inspiration that good things happen to good poeple. Well a couple of months later it turned out we arent a good fit since the owner would INSIST that we are foremost friends, then employer/employee and she would share intimate details with me over her life, and other people in the practise! Hardcore gossip sometimes, like that one of the employees’s bf had hepatitis and the employee had to be tested. This set of a chain reaction of ppl freaking out and said employee feeling super embarassed. (this emploee shared this infor with her employer under the agreement that it was a private, friends discussion, yeah!).
Anyway there were many flaws in the way the practise was managed and in the end the owner pushed me out – she would call meeetings and not invite me to them. Then i noticed others from the staff knew thigns i had discussed in private with the owner in her role as my employer (like me not being happy with certian policies- like grossly overcharging and making up prices for products on the get go), and then she just told me to go home and hand over my keys, terminatign my empoyment.
I’ve never felt so awkward and so punished in my life!
Long story short – the work place enviroment goes to hell once ANYBODY gets the idea you dont like it there or that you are leaving. I felt like a leper…
Post # 7
I hear ya. Just take it as a lesson well-learned – don’t ever confide in anyone at work for private matters, especially if you’re thinking about switching jobs! It doesn’t mean that you can’t make friends, but you should always maintain a distance because technically anyone at work can screw you over – inadvertently or purposely.
Congratulations & good luck on your new position!
(I also sort of handed in my 4 weeks a couple weeks ago and am looking forward to a new start, too! :D)