Just heard my sister might not be coming to our wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

Hopefully counselling can help her move past some of these issues to a point where she would feel comfortable travelling without a gun. Obviously that level of paranoia is not normal or healthy, I have to believe that with a good counsellor the situation will improve. Don’t give up just yet!

Post # 4
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think even more important than your wedding is that your recently suicidal sister insists on keeping a loaded gun with hereverywhere she can! This is not normal, in fact it’s down right scary. That level of paranoia, a strange BF that feeds the paranoia/gun nut thinking, mental health issues, previous suicidal behaviors – all that combined is seriously terrifying! She needs serious help – not firearms. This could all end with her harming herself or others.

I would be less concerned about her attending your wedding and more concerned about the physical safety of your sister and parents. A paranoid mentally unstable person with a loaded firearm – this will not end well. Get her help stat, get the guns or ammo far away from her, get her away from the pyscho gun nut BF – after those things are accomplished worry about wedding attendance.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@gingerkitten:  I’m sorry you’re hurting but there is a bigger issue here beyond your wedding. It is great that a family counseling session is happening where all these facts can be brought up with your parents and your sister all before the counselor. They must express their concern of her carrying a gun. What the hell kind of therapist allows her to have a gun after she clearly already had an episode with one?! Your sister must be putting on some act for her therapist to not pick up on this repeated lie. Your parents must explain to the counselor the severity of your sister’s anxiety and the depth of her mental state not being what she represents in therapy. Ugh! Family counseling needs to continue for a long time. Can you go, too?

I think your parents must take the gun from her and it would be within their rights to do so as it is their house! It is where she is living! Invoke parental rights, dammit. And this boyfriend of hers needs to be out of the picture completely. I’m sensing major intervention on the horizon. What’s it gonna take?

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband carries a gun almost all the time, and obviously couldn’t when he was in Amsterdam.  I’ll ask him if he has any advice for maintaining the sense of security a gun apparently provides while abroad.  It may help to hear it from someone who isn’t opposed to the concept of a gun.

That being said, I don’t understand why so many people equate guns with safety.  It seems like the opposite would be true.  Also…who the hell is she so afraid of?  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@MirnaMinkoff:  +1, this is exactly what I thought when I read the post.

OP, my heart goes out to you.  Help your sister get the help she needs!!  

 

 

Post # 10
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry! Any chance they’ll break up before your big day?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@gingerkitten:  Sorry to hear about this. I really hope that something good will come from your parents telling the therapist the truth…I feel like her situation is about to get way worse than it’s ever been before. Good luck to you, and her.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m very much for gun rights but this is not healthy or good for her.  I’m really sorry your sister may not attend the wedding but please check on the open carry and other laws in your state with regards to owning a gun and being mentally ill.  If anything, please turn her in before she hurts herself or somebody else, even if accidentally.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@gingerkitten:  Why do your parents let someone who is so clearly mentally unstable keep a loaded gun in their home? Seems to me that is just asking for trouble.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@gingerkitten Just because she is legally permitted to own a gun does not mean that your parents have to allow her to keep it at their house. Statistically speaking, a gun is far more likely to be used to kill the individual who owns it, or another member of the household.

there is no way in hell that I would permit someone who was mentally unstable to keep a gun in my house. If having a gun is so important to them, then they are free to take their gun and find somewhere else to reside.

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