Post # 1
Good morning Bee’s! I am looking for some advice and your thoughts please!
So fiance and I are planning our wedding on a tight budget. We have been quoted a fee for a DJ in the area where we are getting married, (Out of town) which was extremely good $. However the thing is we also have a a family friend (known her for 30 years) husband who also dj’s. W originally didnt ask him, because we heard he charges alot.. But we decided to.-I sent him an email asking if he could possibly match the quote we already got-($500) and seeing as they were already INVITED to our wedding, certainly did not expect him to say NO SORRY. I have to charge atleast $700…. What the what. I am I being unreasonable? All he has to do is bring his equipment, set up a play list and get out on the dance floor with the rest of us as he would of as a guest… And he would make $500. I am so upset. I now don’t want him at my wedding, because I know he will be cutting up my music and dj all night..
Sorry for ranting ladies! What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
@corrin: I’m sorry but I think you are being ridiculous. You asked if he could match the price. He can’t. You expected that he was out of your price range and he confirmed that.
He is not required to loose money to do you a favour. Not even to be considered a good friend, and certainly not by etiquette standards.
I am sorry you are upset, but this DJ hasn’t done anything wrong.
Post # 4
All vendors have set prices for their services or they wouldn’t be able to stay in business. Imagine if everyone who knew you or was a friend of a friend and they asked for a price match or a discount? How could they then afford to do that?
He may be insulted that you didn’t ask him first since you asked him to match the price of somebody else that you already contacted.
$700. is a pretty average price for a DJ in this area.
Post # 5
I responed in your other thread, but I’ll restate what I said here. You’re kind of being a bridezilla. He was first a guest at your wedding, and then you want him to work at it. He still has to bring his equipment, load it, unload it, setup, create your playlist…all things that are his JOB that he deserves to be payed his regular wage for. You can’t expect people to do you favors just becasue. If different if he offered, and honestly if he wanted to do you a favor he would have offered already,
Post # 6
Honestly, our dj barely left his table. They’re responsible for keeping people on the dance floor (or at least happy, lol) so they have to be able to change music styles and tempos based on the crowd’s mood. He wouldn’t be able to do anything less at your wedding or it might affect his reputation, and thus his income source. I’m sure he just wants to spend a night at a wedding with his wife. I wouldn’t take it personally if I were you. And there’s no way he’ll be judging your dj! I’m sure he’ll be happy just enjoying a wedding as a guest for once :).
Post # 7
Perhaps to him being a DJ is more than just showing up with equipment and setting up a play list. To ask him to do a sub par job at a very reduced cost would not help his reputation and busniess at all.
Post # 8
I don’t agree with the previous posters. I can totally understand feeling hurt by this person. You have known the wife for 30 years. That is a long time. Instead of a wedding gift- they could throw in the $200 to make up the difference if he needs to make a profit. I think being paid $500 to DJ an event you are already going to and saving money on a present would be worth it in my eyes.
But since he can’t match- enjoy the other DJ and don’t give a hoot about the other guy while at your wedding! You have so much other stuff going on that day- you probably won’t even realize he is there!
Post # 9
@Lolasmomma: But it’s not just throwing in $200 bucks (which would still be a pretty generous gift) it’s still him giving up a fun evening with friends to go to work.
How would you feel if someone told you to pay them $200 for the privilidge of working for free instead of partying with your friends for an evening.? I can’t imagine you would be jumping at the opportunity.
Post # 10
Eh, just let him be and be glad he’s a guest and not a vendor 🙂
Nothing you can really do about it, you know?
Post # 11
Side note-They are not close friends to me, closer to my sisters age and I generally only see them a couple of times a year-He will not know a lot of people at the wedding, so It’s not like I will be keeping him from a good time with his friends.. I thought he would enjoy showing off his skills. And to make $500 bucks ona night where he wouldnt be working anyways, I thought he would figure why not! We will also be having a MC who will be doing A LOT of tallking, and getting the crowd up, so we literally just expected the dj to do music..
Just so you all know, I never went behind his back to book another dj or shop for prices on purpose.. We are getting married 2.5 hours away, so the people whose peoperty we are holding it on, gave us a list of people they knew in the area. We were just trying to keep things easy.
And I know for a fact this friends hubby will be mocking the other DJ if we go that route..
PS. I take offense to the bridezilla comments, because that I definitley am not! We are a couple who have been together for 14 years, since we were 16! We are planning this wedding, a labor of love-paying for it all ourself, and I am doing a lot of DYI. All with little to no support from my family. So again, I do take offense to the bridezilla comments. Please be nice!
Post # 12
I dont get this statment..
How would you feel if someone told you to pay them $200 for the privilidge of working for free instead of partying with your friends for an evening.?
He wouldnt be working for free-As I said, we were willing to pay him $500.00.
Post # 13
If it were me, I would have just thought “Oh, he charges $700. Ok, back to the drawing board.” He’s not obligated to change his rates for you, you’re not entitled to a lower price because he’s an invited guest. My brother DJs part time and it’s not just a matter of clicking the Play button. At least, not if you do it right. He’d have to get there early and set up, lug his equiptment, spend time and energy putting together a wedding specific playlist, probably have to consult with you about it. Let this one go, it’s nothing to get offended over. People go into business to make money, not do favors.
Post # 14
Honestly, you shouldn’t have asked him to DJ AFTER you invited him as a guest. And you should definitely NOT asked for a deal. I understand that you have a tight budget, but this was NOT the way to save a buck. JUst expecting he wouls drag his equipment up there since he is already there is a bit presumptuous. Maybe you can see what other DJ,s in your area can match or beat the original DJ.
Post # 15
I agree with @Luckygal5571: & @ItWasntMe:. He went from being a guest to being asked to work. Unless he was a close friend (family friends are generally further removed) and offered to do it, you shouldn’t have the expectation that he’ll essencially work for less than he’s worth.
Post # 16
What the what. I am I being unreasonable? All he has to do is bring his equipment, set up a play list and get out on the dance floor with the rest of us as he would of as a guest…
And to make $500 bucks ona night where he wouldnt be working anyways, I thought he would figure why not!
@corrin: I don’t get this. He will be working, not partying. He doesn’t want to lower his prices and he doesn’t want to go back and forth from being DJ to being a guest. You are asking a friend who you invited to your wedding as a guest to work at your wedding. He doesn’t want to lower his prices. He’s not rude or a bad friend for this. It would absolutely never occur to me to invite somebody as a guest to my wedding who happened to also have a business involving the wedding industry and then turn around and ask them to be my wedding planner, caterer, or DJ after the fact and then at a reduced cost.