Post # 1
I still can’t believe it. My hands are still shaking. Just the got the call a few minutes ago and although I told them my salary range (they asked), they offered me $10 more an hour than I asked!!!! FI is super excited but now I’ll be making more than him. He says it dosen’t bother him, but I’m afraid it eventually will. Do any bees make more than their SO? Does it bother your SO?
Post # 3
No, but we already live together and share finances so it is not a big deal for us. it is more money we have as a couple rather than one making more than the other. In fact neither of us would even think of it that way!
Post # 4
@StormyRose: We also live together and share finances. I read that some men feel less “manly” when their SO makes more than them. I trust my fiance and know he’s being truthful. This will mean so much for our future, so I should forget the worry and start celebrating, right?
Post # 5
Yeah, do you share all your $ or keep it separate? Cause if it’s all going to the same pot, who cares? My DH is thrilled when I get raises, as I am for him. It’s a mutual support, not a competition…
ETA: Didn’t see your update – yes, start celebrating 🙂
Post # 6
@MrsWrangler: LOL! Thank you! I believe I will 😉
Post # 7
Totally forget the worry! Things sound great – celebrate!
Post # 8
My FI wishes that would happen. He has said that he would like to be a stay at home dad when we have kids. But sadly there is probably no way that I will ever be able to make more than him.
Congrats on the job and try to not worry about silly things like that! I’m sure that he loves you and won’t let something stupid like salary get in the way 🙂
Post # 9
Honestly, at this point and time in the economy, I think most people are just happy to have good paying jobs and not have to have so many financial worries. That’s my outlook on it.
Congratulations! Enjoy your weekend by celebrating.
Post # 10
Thank you! Romance, wine, candles and a yummy dinner awaits!
Post # 11
CONGRATS!!! That’s awesome news! I got a similar e-mail (not phone call) a week ago and I was jumping up and down I was so happy! lol. We’re in the same situation. It doesn’t bother him at all (he’s very mature with things like that) but it does bother me because I like being taken care of 🙂 but I don’t mind!
On another note, my mom and dad were the same… and although my mom thought it was normal, my dad was not so ok with it and now we can see that he got a bit passive aggressive over time because of it.
I do believe it has A LOT to do with how you treat him. Make him feel special and important to you and show him how worthy he is through everything else that he does, and he’ll be fine with you making more money. My mom never did that, she would just complain and tell him that he’s no good. Jee, I wonder why he got resentful… wouldn’t have had a clue.
Post # 12
My husband is feeling a little frustrated right now because he’s working part-time, and I have a full-time job. For us, it’s not as much about the amount of $, just that we’re both contributing. And while he’s certainly contributing now, I know he’d like to be working more hours so that he could contribute even more.
When I got this job, I got offered $4K more a year than I expected, and he was thrilled for me and for us. Because it’s all going to the same place. 🙂
Post # 13
@squeak: That’s terrible 🙁 He does so much for me. I don’t even care about money. I always said that money mattered the least when I was looking for love. (As long as he wasn’t a bum!). Thanks for the advice and I hope he knows I love him everyday. Besides, I’m making about $4 more than him an hour so it’s not a super huge deal. And even if I made 6 figures and he made 4 figures, it’s all for the betterment of our future.
Post # 14
I make almost twice what my SO does and it doesn’t seem to bother him too much. I know he wishes he got paid better but I’ve told him as long as we can afford our bills together (when we get married) who the heck cares.
Post # 15
Congrats! And enjoy it. I make more than my hubby and it has never bothered him in the slightest. The more I have (he insists our money be separate) the more we get to do, he saw the upside quickly. 🙂
Post # 16
I think my FI would feel like he is not pulling his weight or some other manly thought that isn’t true, but he would be happy for me. I think your FI will be proud of you, and really, it is noone’s business but the two of you as to who makes more. CONGRATS!! That is awesome that they offered you more than you were expecting!