- 4 years ago
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have a romantic long weekend getaway planned next weekend, and part of me hoped that this would be THE TRIP! We finished ring shopping 6ish weeks ago and I figured there was a decent chance that he’d propose on our vacation.
However, he told me last night that he won’t be proposing next weekend because my ring isn’t ready yet (he is having my ring custom made and I guess it’s taking longer than he realized). He wanted to tell me ahead of time so I wouldn’t be disappointed after our trip next weekend, which was thoughtful, but it was also really rough news to hear. And no, he isn’t just saying this to throw me off. He’s not that sly!
Even though I’d been trying not to pin my hopes on this trip, I ended up crying a little when he told me. I thought the waiting end was in sight and now it will be at least another 4-8 weeks before the ring is ready and a proposal can happen. In reality, it’s not thatlong, but I’ve been “waiting” for a year now, so having to add any amount of time to that wait is hard. Boyfriend or Best Friend was really sweet about it, though, and hugged me and told me it’s definitely going to happen and that just because it’s not happening on this trip doesn’t mean it won’t happen. He handled it really well and I guess I am glad I know now, so I can just enjoy our vacation for what it is: a romantic trip.
The hardest thing for me is actually having to tell my family/friends that it’s not happening this trip. We went to France last fall and coming back ring-less was hard to deal with socially (even though I wasn’t bothered by the lack of proposal; I knew the timing was wrong). Having to go that again though is going to be torture! I’m about to impose a rule: no more fancy trips until we’re engaged! :p