Post # 1
I just recently got engaged and already I’m getting annoyed with how people react!… My FI and I have been together for just over 6 years; we are not in the best financial place so this will be a long engagement.
Well before we got engaged everyone around us was pushing for the ring, I mean every family gathering “when are you getting married?!”.
So now that we are engaged the question is “when is the baby coming?!” Ummm what?! We just got engaged, let us at least get married first!
It truly seems that the majority of people around us have dated, gotten pregnant then gotten married. So for us to be going to “traditional” route it feels like we are constantly getting flack!
Anyone else dealing with this? Jeez!
Post # 3
@Artificial-Sweetener: I think people are just excited for you, to see you move through these stages in the relationship 🙂 I know it can get annoying! I’m waiting on an engagement (see my recent post lol) but our wedding will also be 18-24 months from now and my Mother is like, explain to me again why you’re not getting married next fall (2013)? Mom, we need to save and SO needs to get to a particular milestone in his Ph.D. program, remember? The important things? 🙂 She’s just excited.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
HA! My aunt stopped waiting around for the engagement before she moved on to baby time!
Seriosly, she was asking for the first 2 years of dating, when are we getting engaged? Then, about 6 months before we were even engaged, she had alreadyhopped ahead to when are we havinga baby?!?
This is just what family does– don’t let them get to you. They mean well, even if it does feel a little pushy.
Post # 5
HA! I know how you feel. I got back from the vacation I got engaged on on a Sunday and Monday morning at work people asked if I had set a date. I was like, seriously? It JUST happened and felt the ened to explain until I find a venue, I can’t definitively set a date in stone. Then I did set a date (2 years down the road) and people were all “why are you waiting so long?”. Now people barely ask anything anymore because its so far off. Whatevs!
Post # 6
Girl preach. My Fi and I have been together for years. We knew we wanted to fight being a statistic so were waiting until we were older to even think about engagement. As soon as it happened, like less than an hour later, we were bombarded with date/theme/etc requests/suggestions. It’s nice that people are excited but it gets a bit much. I bet you’re also enjoying the constant assumptions that people are invited to your wedding you haven’t even planned lol. I always thought being engaged was going to be sunshine and rainbows but it’s mostly just us fielding questions/opinions and trying to plan a wedding in a way that keeps us sane. : )
Post # 7
@Artificial-Sweetener: lol welcome to my life two weeks after I was married. It doesn’t stop unless you TELL them to quit it (which is what I did). What makes it worse is that we’re CBC, but I can’t imagine what it must be like for those who are trying but are struggling.
Post # 8
I totally get that people are happy for us 🙂 but it just irritates me the people think babies need to make an appearance before a couple is even married. For some people that’s great. But I would rather not be questioned why I’m not pregnant yet.
My cousin, BFF, and both FSIL’s have all fallen preg before getting married 6 mo to a year into a relationship. Two of those relationships are now over. I just don’t get why my situation is so weird to others.