(Closed) Just lost a bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

First of all, uneven sides will NOT make your marriage invaild… so you’re right to just let that be if that is the case.

Second, it’s nice of you to let them deal with this situation, as it is their own personal, private business.  I’m sorry you are even being put in that situation 🙁

As for the programs, well you can leave her in there, and in the event she isn’t able to come, or isn’t comfortable being near your brother, just let it be.  If anyone does ask where she is, or realizes that there are more Bridesmaid or Best Man names in the program than BMs at the front, just tell them she was unable to be present and leave it at that.  It’s none of anyone else’s business.

Post # 4
8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

This is terrible, I feel badly for you AND her. Honestly, it’s pretty soon and she’s very hurt. I suspect she won’t be comfortable coming to the wedding, but you need to find out for sure. Call her to see how she’s doing and casually bring it up. Let her know how much you care about her and let her know while you would love her to be there, you completely understand if she’s not comfortable with it. Make sure that it’s all about her.

Post # 5
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh geeze, that sounds like a really rough situation.  I have no advice to offer, but I wish you luck with your wedding and peace for your family and your friend.

Post # 6
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Wow. This is terrible 🙁 If I were you, I’d go ahead and print the programs with her on them. Having her listed if she decides to back out is way worse than if you leave her off them and she decides to stay a bridesmaid.

Post # 7
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is tough, sorry to hear!  I would think it woud be hard for her to come and participate in a wedding that only 3 weeks before she thought she would become a part of the family and now will likely not.  I know you want to be nice and sympathetic right now, but if I were in your shoes I would not push it and honestly vear on the side of asking her not to be in it.  Do you think you will continue to be close friends with her if she’s not dating your brother anymore?  Do you want his ex in all your pictures?  I guess it depends on how close friends you actually are, and if you’ll maintain that friendship post split.  If not then I would move on with your plans and not include her.  Sorry if that seems unsympathetic to her, but it seems like it could be more drama than it’s worth to have her in the wedding.

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What Tigrrlily said.

Post # 9
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would let her make the decision whether or not to attend.  don’t make it for her.

Put her name in the program.  It will be awkward if you don’t and she does come.

Post # 10
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What a thing to deal with right before your wedding, I’m so sorry.  I agree that you should ultimately let her decide, even if it comes down to the wire.  Keep her name in the program, otherwise she will feel slighted. 

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