Post # 1
Whew. Warning: major vent.
I am extra emotional today but seriously this is too much for me to handle. I’ve had no help from anyone with this wedding which I get since its my wedding, nobody elses. My bridesmaids are out of state, my maid of honor is a flake, my mom is out of state, my fiance tries to help but does things wrong (which is sweet of him but really it just makes more work for me) when he isn’t here he is working 70 hour weeks since we are paying for the wedding ourselves and I’ve lost it.
I’ve done all my DIY projects this week, keep in mind I have a two year old son so I have to do these projects whenever he naps or goes to bed. Thats about 3 hours a day that I have to myself, but doing all of these alone is finally getting to me. I am not crafty, I have no friends around to calm me down so this is why I am posting…
Why doesn’t anyone else care about this wedding?!! That’s probably the period talking but oh man. I want to call up my maid of honor and tell her how disappointed I am that she has told me she would help me with everything since I have no one else around but she has bailed on me for months now (I’ve seen her twice in about a 6 month time period?)
I got the invitations today, and they look nothing like the sample that was sent to me. I had to assemble them which I also did not know about…so here I am…during my son’s nap…putting them together, my fiance called me fat today and I am beginning to cry.
No. MORE. Wedding…please. 🙁
Post # 3
Amazing how quickly weddings can get overwhelming. Sorry you are having a bad day.
Post # 4
Deep breaths…in…out…there ya go…
I feel ya girl. I haven’t even gotten into planning and it is already the most stressful thing in the world, especially when you feel like no one gives a flying f*ck but you. I totally thought getting stressed and hysterical over a wedding was something only the crazy, drama queen brides did. Oh no, it’s for us too.
I’m sorry I don’t have any good advice, but you’re not alone, and vent away.
P.s. Tell your fiance “so is your face.”
Post # 5
Sorry you’re having a bad day! I second @katiedee. Or you can always use the old “takes one to know one” hehe 🙂
Post # 6
I’m right there with you darling 🙁
I had to have two vents to my FI today, as well as a few fights.
I just went down to my parent’s house (where the wedding is) last week for a few days to help out (because they asked me to), and they literally made 3 hours’ time for me while I was there. It’s a 10 hour drive each way. I felt like I was the only one who cares about my wedding as well.
But you know what? It’ll be great in the end, and you’ll be SO happy you did the work!
Post # 7
It gets better. You will get things done. Like the other girls said, relax, breathe.
As for your fiance, tell him he’s ugly.
Post # 8
I hear you! I had absolutely no help with the wedding planning or preparations either. You couldn’t pay me to go through that again. Thank goodness for weddingbee! Despite wedding planning being a major PITA, I was truly blissful on our wedding day and I had the satisfaction of knowing that the wonderful day was the result of all my hard work and effort. And yeah, it was worth it in the end.
Walk away for a while. Think or do something that is not wedding oriented.
Post # 9
Thanks bee’s 🙂
@BackyardLoveBird: you are great. I should have totally used that line. I was about to bite into a sandwhich and I got “your dress fitting is next week isn’t it? you don’t want to be too fat”…what? it was a whole wheat turkey sandwhich for christ sakes!
@napabridekelsey: you’re right, I know it will be worth it–how is it something can stress/excite/sadden you all at the same time?!
@katiedee: It is nice to know I am not alone, seriously when my bridesmaids get married I wish I could say they will know how I feel but I’m the type of person who is there to help in an instant, even ready to hop on a plane to help them. I would help pay for their weddings. But their actions are telling me they just do not care right now :-/ I guess its easy to feel that way when it’s your own wedding since its on the brides mind 24/7
Post # 10
@katiedee: lol I second that, “so is your face”
Big Hugs to you!! I wish I had wisdom, but I don’t. It’s stressful being a budget/DIY/alone bride. Sometimes when I get really stressed, I stop doing everything and turn on the TV or get a massage or run, etc… That always helps.
Post # 11
Thanks! I love the wedding bee & all of you bee’s. Luckily my break down was nothing that a bath, Say Yes to the Dress, mani+pedi couldn’t fix…until I saw the pool of oil under my car when I got home from dropping my invites off at the post office.
So it looks like maybe a skinny vanilla latte and massage tomorrow? or just some midol since this wedding is making me broke.
Post # 12
@Heatherloveskenny: How mean of your fiance. I’ve seen your pictures and your SO pretty. I’d have smacked him in the face lol. Your gorgeous and don’t ever let anyone tell you differently. I don’t care who they are. Keep your chin up and take a break of things wedding related for a little white. It helps trust me. I am also in your situation, planning the whole thing practically by myself and it gets very overwhelming but when that happens I just shut the laptop down and turn on a movie for a couple hours. It helps and by the times it’s over I’m back on the laptop brainstorming for ideas. 🙂
Post # 13
Aw you’re very sweet, thanks!
it was one of those things that was said out of stress I think. He doesn’t know anything about eating healthy, so I should have taken it with a grain of salt. Even though I still think it was rude.
^^ this helped me. back to wedding planning!
ps. I didn’t take a picture of this to post on wedding bee! I sent it to my fiance to let him know that he added to my stress level enough to take a bath (I usually hate baths and only take them when I have high anxiety)