Post # 1
I felt a bit silly when the receptionist asked how long we have been trying. It’s been short of 8 months, and I’m 33.
At my annual a few weeks ago, I told the nurse practitioner that we’re still not preggo and she asked me if I wanted to see an RE. I was unsure, since the rule is 12 months when under 35, but she said there was no benefit in waiting much longer at my age, and sent my information to the RE they are working with.
Now that I have the appointment, I feel like I’ve jumped the gun on this. On the one hand, I’m glad we are getting checked out, since DH is a heavy smoker and I’m secretly not sure about his swimmers’ quality, even though I won’t tell him that to his face. Also, it took my mom more than 3 years to get pregnant with me when she was in her mid-20’s, and I’m an only child, go figure. On the other hand, I can’t stop feeling like I’m being ridiculous.
I know there is a similar thread from a bee who considers seeing an RE after 3 months, and I weighed in on it. But now that I actually have my appointment, I feel silly. What if the insurance doesn’t even cover the visit because I didn’t wait long enough?
Does anybody have any reassurance for me? Or comments?
Post # 3
@AprilJo2011: I would check with insurance first. But don’t feel silly. If there is a problem, it doesn’t matter how long you have been trying. The first steps will just be diagnostic, then you can decide whether you are comfortable with starting interventions or want to keep trying naturally for a bit longer. If and when you decide there’s a problem, you’ll want to see the RE asap. Then you’ll have to go to primary OB to get a referral, then wait longer for an appointment. Already being in will be helpful.
Post # 4
Don’t feel silly! If your current doctor thought it was too soon to refer you, they wouldn’t have. And, your RE will tell you if they think it’s too early as well. Sure, there are people who wait longer to go see one. But, there are others who don’t. It’s all about your comfort level. You know your body better than anyone and you have to advocate for it.
Post # 5
Thanks to both of you! I’m already feeling a bit better, mostly because of your replies, but also because AF just showed her ugly face once again. One more cycle and nothing to show for…
I have one more question. The receptionist asked me about my insurance and told me to get a referral from my PCP prior to the appointment, because apparently getting referred to them by my OBGyn isn’t enough. But all she wanted to know about DH was his name. Am I really the only one who needs a referral, even though he is going with me?
Post # 6
I wouldn’t feel silly especially since your doctor sent you. Hopefully the office will really be able to help you get pregnant.
In regards to your insurance question I believe you are the only one who needs a referrald as you will be having the baby and the RE visits will be charged to you under your insurance coverage.
Post # 7
I think that’s how it was for me as well. I was referred by my GYN and when they did my husband’s semen analysis, they didn’t need a referral for him or anything.
Post # 8
@AprilJo2011: I can totally relate! I’m 29 and will be trying for 10 months when we meet with the RE. At times I do feel like we’re rushing into things, but for the most part we’re looking forward to getting some answers.