Post # 1
Just need to vent a little here…..I meet with my florist again yesterday. She’s a very chatty person to the point where you can’t really get a word in. She’s nice and all, but I’m a little frustrated. I don’t feel like she’s getting my “vision”. I brought in all kinds of inspiration pics, told her I want loose, textured, just picked, asymmetrical kind of look. I brought in a list of flowers I like and flowers I dislike.
She started going around pulling flowers together that she had on hand and I wanted to just say nevermind I will do it myself. I live in a small town so I suppose she’s not going to have the flowers I want on hand, but I don’t know, it was just looking like those bouquets you get at the grocery store!
I’ve seen some of her weddings and the flowers looked fine, just not what I want. I just figured those brides just wanted less expensive flowers or really didn’t care what they got. The thing that really got me was when I asked for the bouquets to be hand tied. She told me no. Said she puts them in holders so they are in water and then she can place the flowers so they all face out. And if she did hand tied she would have to wire all the flowers so the “bend” outwards. I still said I didn’t want them in holders and she went and got one she had done for a wedding this weekend.
I did not like it. This is what it was
The flowers were arrangedperfectly into a nice little dome. You could tell the stems were fake. If I wanted fake flowers I would go that route. Why pay for fresh flowers if you are going to cut all the stems off and just use the blooms?
So I told her I didn’t like the holders and I really prefer hand tied. She finally agreed (I think). I told her again that I’m not wanting a perfectly shaped bouquet, that I want it to look like you just picked it and tied it together. Just give me a hand tied bouquet!!!If the flowers wilt or don’t look perfect it’s on me.
Hope some of this makes sense!! Just needed to get that out I guess!
So bees…who has had hand tied bouquets? Did they hold up? Did they look pretty? Thanks for listening!!
Post # 3
@weim-love: All my bouquets will be hand tied and I’m paying an arm and a leg for it. I’d find a new florist, this lady doesn’t get it. Even if you have to go a little bit outside of your town and have them delivered in on the morning of the wedding, it would be important to me to have the look I wanted.
I told my florist I wanted loose, wildflower, just picked look with trailing pieces and crazy things sticking all over. Not a tight dome bouquet.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t fight with someone over a creative vision – either they get it or they don’t. You don’t want to be dissapointed when your flowers arrive on your wedding day.
Post # 5
I’m with PP. If she isn’t willing to do what you want, find a new florist who is.
Post # 6
@weim-love: There was no way I would have gone with anything that wasnt hand tied. Do it yourself or go somewhere else to get what you want. I would be done with that lady….
Post # 7
It sounds like she doesn’t have the right skills or experience. Making bouquets is actually pretty hard without a holder. But if you want an organic flowy handtied look then that should be easier. If the florist isn’t getting it then what about ordering the flowers and making them yourselves?
Post # 8
I totally get your vision. I think there are two things at play here 1) Either she doesn’t get your vision or can’t do it, 2)other factors, including durablity and staying power.
I wanted a hand tied look and my florist was going to do it. I told her the same thing- loose, organic. I did not want a perfect ball of flowers. However, given the humidity the week of my wedding, we had to switch to a holder like that so the main flowers or ones prone to wilting could be in water. She wired in some greenery though and I think the bouquet turned out well considering it was like 99% humidity and everything! (pic below).
I think if its problem 1 and the florist just isn’t listening to your vision, then switch. However, if she’s able to give you the look you want and make the bouquet last because of the flower types, and/or weather…that’s another thing. Sounds like she just doesn’t get you though.
Post # 9
@michiru4ever: I have thought about doing them myself. I keep going back and forth with it!!!
Post # 10
@FoolsintheRain: I’m kind of thinking she just can’t do it…beautiful bouquet by the way!!
Post # 11
@weim-love: In that case, I’d move on. You are paying for a service and she should be able to provide the service that you want. Are you tied to a contract yet? Are there other florist options in your town or nearby?
Post # 12
@weim-love: Oh and thanks about the bouquet compliment! :).
Also- sorry to threadjack…but is your username a nod to weimaraner dogs? if so- love them!!
Post # 13
My bouquet is hand-tied, loose, asymetrical flowers, non-matchy matchy. I loved it.
Post # 14
Do you have a local farmer’s market? Around here there are numerous flower farms at the market that do bridal bouquets in the exact look you are going for. I ended up using a local florist though since I wanted a few non-local flowers/plants and she does hand-tied bouquets like this all the time. It’s quite a popular look. I just think that your florist is stuck and you should find someone new. A Practical Wedding has a great tutorial if you want to DIY: http://apracticalwedding.com/tag/wedding-bouquet-tutorial/
Anyway here’s my bouquet (I asked for air plants and those are obviously wired in because they have no stems):
Post # 15
@weim-love: I tied my own bouquets.
(with the ribbon tied up for transport)
Post # 16
@FoolsintheRain: I’m not tied into a contract. There aren’t options in my area 🙁 I will have to look at least and hour away, but if that’s what it takes to get what I want…