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Some of the bees talk about that -- post-wedding depression/blue/burnout. Seems to be pretty typical. =) I think you have to kind of force your way past it.
Same here! Dissertation? Eh. Workouts? No thanks. So I've made no progress on my degree and I've gained six pounds in the last month. On the up side, I've watch a lot of really bad daytime TV. ;P
Ha! Amysue, misery loves company! Your post just made me feel better. I'm going back to school in one month to start an MBA program, and I have all these online prep courses that I'm supposed to complete before then. I haven't started them b/c I was "too busy with the wedding." The wedding really was such a great excuse to put off boring/unpleasant activities! It was almost like a get out of jail free card. Really, why would I brush up on my finance and accounting when I could use that time to DIY for the wedding? Now that the wedding's over, I'm out of excuses, and all those unpleasant things I put off are staring me in the face. I suppose the wisest thing would be to suck it up and get through them....but maybe I'll do that after I check if there is anything good on TV. :-)
And if there's not anything good on TV, well...I'll watch it anyway!
I've actually started learning how to cook and I'm planning a friend's baby shower, so that's helping. I've found that by getting involved in some more pleasant things, it's giving me the energy to start working the less pleasant, you know?
You hit the nail on the head!!! Congratulations on the wedding, btw!
I didn't get "blues" after, but like you said, I have no motivation at all! Our house looks like it was hit by the wedding tornado... while we have put away 80% of the gifts, we haven't dealt with the boxes that are piling up to the ceiling, and my crafting stuff is everywhere. I started with our office this week, I'm hoping that it will be easier if we do it room by room.
Hopefully it will pass, it is driving me nuts too!
Linzella...I'm the same way. I've done nothing but eat myself into oblivion, sleep, and read Harry Potter. I hope going back to work on Monday will get me back in the spirit of real life!
Congrats on your marriage!
I wouldn't call what I had blues or depression, I was just exhausted. It was more burnout than anything else. I was just so stressed with everything that I just wanted to relax. Of course, when I had the time, I then didn't know what to do with myself!
It will get better...don't worry!
I feel so much better now after reading all this! I haven't done anything at work or home since we got married about a month ago... My productivity went out the window after we got back from our honeymoon. I'm still writing thank-yous every other night but other than that, our house is a wreck, I haven't been doing much at work except checking out various unimportant things on the internet, etc. Hopefully this will pass soon, I'm starting to feel a little guilty...
@kfigard: I always wonder what people did to put off work before the internet! I can't imagine work without it!
Today is my 2nd official day back at work. It's always rough to come back after a vacation, but this has been extra hard because I mentally checked out of work weeks before the wedding. So, I'm trying to catch up from being off for 2+ weeks AND catch up on everything I didn't do before the wedding. If I had a time machine, I'd warn myself to TRY and stay focused on my job more before the wedding instead of letting bride-brain take over! OK, despite how tempted I am...I am going to be productive for the rest of this afternoon! No more internet until I get home! :-)
Maybe you need something to get you motivated! Look at your calendar and set a date for 3 or 4 weeks down the road to have a little post-wedding house-warming party, perhaps. Once you have sent the e-vite you will HAVE to get it done, or risk people seeing your place in shambles!
For those of us that are married, we understand! I got married this past Saturday and I have done nothing but sleep and make photo books for the in laws. I am normally, a very tidy, neat freak and our place is a disaster! I have not worked out in over 2 weeks etc. Hubby and I are enjoying this time to be alone and relax, since we did not have much of that leading up to and the week of the wedding including the day of. It is so exhausting, you really dont know until you fall asleep writing Thank you cards. Just enjoy the down time, its rare for some. I know it is for us!
Not married yet, but this means you are human. I say: Embrace your laziness! It surely won't last forever. It just happens. You'll probably be back to your productive self by next month.
I feel the same way, but more so that I WANT to clean and organize but then I get home and am not motivated at all. When I got back to work (I work 9-6pm) I feel like I want to go home and hang out cause its already late, not clean. But we do have motivation, my parents are coming over Sunday and we need to get the place cleaned! A good idea my husband had was for us to have a house warming party since its our first place together and that will totally motivate us to clean up the place nice enough for people to come over! But I like being lazy too :)
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So, our wedding was about 2 weeks ago. The day was AMAZING, and our honeymoon was great too! Leading up to the wedding, I had everything 100% planned, and the day went off without a hitch. Now however, it seems like I've done a complete 180 b/c I'm not motivated to do anything at all! Our place is a wreck - we still have wedding stuff to pack up and gifts everywhere, and I haven't finished moving all of my stuff into our new apartment yet! (My dad was storing my stuff, and half of it is still at his house.)
Anyway, I have a ton of things I should be doing, but all I want to do is eat junk and hang out in front of the TV. Did anybody else feel this way after their wedding? I used to be great about getting things done, but I feel like I've hit a wall.