Post # 1
I’m wayyy in over head with this whole wedding planning…..we’re about 3 months away from the date and I still can’t shake the feeling of stress and things not being done. I’m completly overwhelmed because we have 250 people coming and I don’t even think our venue will hold all of those people!!! I’ve never ever dreamed of a wedding let alone a big one….so this is already causing major anxiety! I wish that I had less people and this might be better but I just can’t see our list being cut down at all! Fiance & I can’t wait for it all to be over….& bc of that everyone keeps telling us that we should elope!!! 🙁 I feel like we should too but I just can’t imagine backing out now since we have so many things lined up already….what is your opinion??
Post # 3
hugs!! no it’s not just you – take a step back from it for a few days and try to give yourself a wedding break… it’s stressful stuff! your wedding will be beautiful and momentous no matter what. :]
Post # 4
i’m so sorry that you are stressed. absolutely everything you wrote is exactly how i felt just a few months ago. but you know, you work through it and you get those million things done. i’m just a few weeks out now, and i already feel so much better. no more stress about so much because it’s already done. it really does get much better, i PROMISE!!
have a glass of wine and do nothing wedding related for a few days and you’ll start to feel much better!!
Post # 5
I’m having a small intimate wedding and I want to just go to the courthouse. Its not just you. Wedding planning is just stressful and occupies too much of our time.
Take a much needed break as well as ask for assistance. Delegation is such a great tool!!!!
Post # 6
Thank you everyone! It’s very comforting to hear especially when a lot of other people are saying it’s just easier to elope!
Post # 7
Just try and relax. It will all come together! I was feeling the same way about three months out. What helped me was to make a list of what I needed to do and ranked them in order of importance. For instance, I needed to find a florist, but I could skip making cute “bride” & “groom” signs for our reception chairs if need be. And in the end I needed to skip making those signs. I was bummed I didn’t get to them, but the most important stuff was done & I didn’t even notice the tiny things I didn’t have time to do. Also, ask your friends/family/fiance to help out. I wish I had started doing that 3 months out instead of the last week before the wedding!
Post # 8
Honestly, I felt that way until my wedding day. They’re stressful, and I have never planned a big event like that before so I didn’t know if I was doing it right or missing things. But of course the wedding was beautiful and I did all that worrying for nothing, so try to relax and enjoy it a bit! (I know, way easier said than done.)
Post # 9
What helped me manage the stress (and stop obsessing about eloping) was realizing the “WHY” behind why I wanted to have a wedding in the first place.
It really helped me embrace the wedding-crazy and continue with plans.
Also – if you haven’t already sent invites – are you sure you can’t make the guest list smaller? If anything, make sure your venue can hold the people you are having. And – don’t try to tackle everything at once. Just attack one thing at a time (like venue capacity) and go from there.
YOU CAN DO IT!
Post # 10
Don’t let the guest list beat you down. It will all work out. I have 40 days left and everyday I say, “I can’t wait to be done” and I don’t think I even have much left to be stressed about. We have a huge guest list too and more seem to be adding on. I’m always like how are we going to feed everyone but I know it will work out. It will be over before you know it.
Post # 11
Thank you so much everyone! I will try & relax & remember that everyone goes through this! Thanks for all the support hive!
@oracle: I am trying to cut it down…..I’m failing terribly though…haha.
The good thing is that our venue has a big courtyard and 2 “extra rooms” that aren’t going to be occupied. We’ll be putting extra tables in there and if someone doesn’t ends up “stumbling” upon them…. 😉
Post # 12
Also, our bar will be outside the main ballroom. & most people hang out around there!