Just moved. How to make new friends!?!?!?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@gingerbreadlady:  We used to move every year in my first marriage. One thing I quickly learned is that there are nice people everywhere. The challenge is that they already have friends,so the onus is on you to reach out.

Take classes, go to the gym, volunteer etc- all the usual, smile, say hello, have superficial conversations then after a while  invite someone to go for a coffee after class etc.

Talk about a movie you wold like to see and ask if they would be interested  etc etc etc

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would definitely suggest to take some classes (like a fun cooking class), join some sort of organization or a sports team! Do something you love and you’ll find friends with mutual interests no problem 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@gingerbreadlady:  Are you planning to work outside the home at any point?

I honestly have met all of my close friends either through work (or through one of my work friends) since moving away from my home state 5 years ago.  I found it much easier to make friends when I went away to college because I lived on campus, got involved in a lot of activities, and started conversations with classmates (that often led to hanging out outside of class).  Once you’re no longer a student, it’s definitely more difficult!

In terms of making lasting friendships through work, it started with just striking up general conversations.  Talking about where you’re both from, your college experiences, etc. can allow you to start building a bond.  I’m still really close to several people I used to work with (one of which I recently went on vacation with), so you really can create lasting friendships with coworkers.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I highly recommend meetup.com.  I joined a group for women in their 20s and 30s when I moved to NJ about a year ago, and have met some good friends there. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I just moved and made a bunch of new friends, mostly from work though.  If you can’t find a job, perhaps you can volunteer – you’ll be able to meet people who have the saem passions as you (passionate enuogh to volunteer their time!).

Try meetup.com – it’s a website where you can find groups of people online that meet offline that have similar interests.

And, I second going to the gym – I think it’s easier to make friends with people when you go to a studio that specializes in something (like yoga, zumba, etc) as opposed to a big gym where you go and do your own thing (although these have classes, too). 

My FI makes friends bc of our dog.  Whenever he takes her out, people flock to her.  He’s made a few friends like that and also by going to the gym in our apt complex.  Maybe just going outside and speaking to your neighbors will help you meet new people? 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m in the same boat as you right now. Trying to get out and make some friends. The difficulty is that I moved to a small town so everyone has their own group of friends already. I just joined a gym and will be starting work, so hopefully that will help. I do make a point of saying to people that I don’t really know anyone yet and some of the people introduce me or one girl from the gym is having a girls night in a couple of weeks and is inviting me over. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@gingerbreadlady:  Same problem here! We just moved to Michigan in October of last year, and I still don’t feel like I have friends here. :- I thought for sure I’d make friends with my co-workers, but that hasn’t quite worked out for me. I’m way too shy to approach people, so I think I’m doomed, Lol.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have the same problem! I’m in a smallish university town now where FI is doing his MSc so it’s utterly DEAD in the summer… I know I’ll be able to make friends in September, but I can’t stand being lonely for 2 more months!

I’m doing an online course so I can’t make friends at school, and I’m a substitute teacher so I can’t make friends at work! (Plus school is out now anyway). Really sucks. I’m going to try the meetup.com suggestion… I just hope it exists in Canada!

ETA: Sad, there’s nothing in my city through meetup.com except for a couple of parenting groups, and one for photographers… none of which apply to me, lol. I’ll keep trying.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@gingerbreadlady:  We’re in the bay area, about 2 hours or so north of Detroit. Where are you guys?

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