(Closed) Just moved into FI’s apartment, and overwhelmed. :-/

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Set a timer for 15 minutes and work hard until the timer goes off. You’ll be SHOCKED at how  much you can accomplish in a short amount of time.  If you feel like keeping going after that time, do it.  If not, take a break – do something else, and then do another 15 minutes.  You’ll tackle that place in no time!

Post # 4
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Whenever I’ve got a big mess to deal with and am feeling the way you’re feeling, not knowing where to start, I just tell myself to just starting picking things up and putting them away. Looking at your list, I would start with the general housework stuff like dishes and laundry. Once that sort of mess is cleared away I think it’ll be easier to decide where to unpack boxes and store wedding presents. Good luck!

Post # 5
2823 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Music = my cleaning motivation. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 6
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do small amounts at a time as to not get super overwhelmed and drive yourself nuts. When I first moved into my fiances house, i organized things in sections. One day it was the laundry, another day it was the bills, etc. Pace yourself and youll be fine!

Post # 7
2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just remember that in most circumstances, you have to make an even bigger mess in order to clean the current mess.  Just start at the most desirable (or least undesirable) task and do bits and pieces slowly, while watching TV and it gets done in no time!

Post # 8
14345 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

its not really your responsibility unless its yours or you’re bothered by it.  It doesnt bother your fi, if its been like that so he’s not expecting you to take care of it.  Just get to it at your leisure if you want, don’t let it overwhelm you. Maybe wait till he gets home and work on it together so he knows where everything is and should go so he doesn’t have to ask you where everything went

Post # 9
3626 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsWilson2012: Yes! Make a playlist or just listen to a few songs, and you’ll be surprised how much you get done.

Post # 10
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It always helps me to put on my workout clothes (including sneakers) and some upbeat music – cleaning is more palatable when I view it as multi-tasking with exercise. 

I also sometimes set a timer, like oracle suggested.

Finally, if you’re really stuck, you could see if maybe a girlfriend or two would take pity on you and come help. You could offer to provide food and drinks in exchange for their help whipping the bachelor pad into shape! Even if you didn’t ask them to physically help you, they could come over and provide moral support/company…

I’m hoping Fiance is going to help you as well?!?

Post # 12
26 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I know it’s hard to find time together when you’re both busy, but I’m always amazed at how much faster it goes when we tackle everything together all at once. Usually we can do a good deep clean in an hour or two (granted, we live in an apartment) and then neither person feels like they’re the ones taking on all the cleaning. 

Post # 13
5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

@oracle: I definitely agree with this! Breaking it down into timed chunks makes things seem less daunting and a lot easier.

I also agree with the music suggestion, I always play upbeat music while I clean. It makes it seem less boring haha

Post # 14
11395 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

When I feel like you do I do one room at a time then take a break. I start with the living room (usually the easiest.) Then move on to the kitchen. If I can’t finish cleaning that day the next day I will do the bathroom & bedroom!


@oracle: LOVE your suggestion! It is so true! I will start cleaning & look at the clock after 15-20 minutes & have a whole room spotless & then some!! lol


Post # 15
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You might also think about breaking it up by room.  Pick one room to be your sanctuary, your clean room.  Pick it up first, and then you can relax in it and not be stressed out by everything else that remains quite as much.

I too require music to get into the cleaning mood.  🙂

And make lists!  Their is some unexplainable pleasure in crossing small tasks off a list.

Maybe start with laundry…it’ll make a big impact right away and it’s something you can’t put off too long.  While it’s going clear off the breakfast bar and work on filing the bills.  (On the theory it’s easier to unpack once everything is put away.) 

Post # 16
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Sometimes, I watch shows while I am unpacking or doing something.  That way I’m not just sitting around being unproductive while watching TV.

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