(Closed) Just need to vent! :0(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble bee

You need to tell your mother that you are sad that she’s being so distant. She may just be really scared that the marriage won’t turn out well, so you need to make sure she knows how much you love each other, that the moment is perfect, etc. Don’t say you need her approval, but show that you need her support. 

As for the dress, it’s YOUR wedding, and you especially want it to be wonderful. Your dress, if anything, should be more wonderful than your first, because it is more important. I think she may just be trying to sabotage your engagement with this dress thing. Why would she care what kind of dress you wear, as long as the dress is appropriate? A friend had a similar issue – her family was paying for most of the wedding and wanted her to wear a specific style of dress that she didn’t like. They had a falling out and eventually her family realised that they just wanted her to be happy and that her happiness was more important than their idea of a “perfect” wedding. 

Just tell her how you feel, tell her you need this wedding to be really special for your FI (imagine how hurt he’d be if he thought you and/or your mother are taking it less seriously than your first!).

Either way, she’s a mother, so she’ll come around. Don’t let it get to you. Your well-being is more important than any family’s emotional whims. 

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