- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I had a pretty stressful day, all relating to my friend (whose daughter is friends with mine). Her daughter stayed the night at mine the other night and left a top and pair of leggings behind (so she says, I’m 99% certain I gave the legging back the next day). This morning, the kids school had own-clothes day, and her daughter decided she HAD to wear that top, so I immediately left FI getting my own two kids ready for school, and walked for 10 minutes round to her house in the rain to drop this top round, so that her daughter wouldn’t be disappointed. FI had washed the top, and when I handed it to my friend (in a bit of a rush as I had to get back to mine before the school run) she didn’t say “sorry for the inconvenience”, she didn’t even say “thank you for dropping it round last-minute”. What she did say was “what have you washed this with? The colours are wrong, I can’t let [her daughter’s name] wear that!”. Now, if the colours had been wrong, I wouldn’t have minded this comment, in fact I would have been really apologetic, but they weren’t, they were absolutely fine! I even took the top into direct sunlight to double check and there was nothing wrong with it! Still, I decided to do the best thing and offer to replace the top, I even asked where she got it from and what size, and the response I got was “I got it from [supermarket] but you can’t replace it as it was the last one”… What, it’s the last one in the world? I told her I would try anyway. As it happens, I have managed to order it online no problem.
Then, after school, the kids and I went over to hers for tea. I informed her that I had replaced the top, and I also gave her a pair of black leggings that I bought for her daughter, just in case I don’t find the pair she says she left at mine. Again, I didn’t get a thank-you. What I got instead was “well these leggings are the wrong kind of black.” At this point, I’m starting to get pissed off, but I leave it as it’s not worth arguing about. The evening passed fairly well, everything seemed fine. About half an hour after I got home, however, I got a text from her saying “I hope you have cream paint, because your son has drawn on my walls!” -now, if my son had drawn on her walls, I would be mortified! And I can almost understand her thinking he did, it is something three-year-olds tend to do. However, we have cream walls at our house, and we rent so aren’t allowed to redecorate. Because of this, my son is well aware that he must not draw on walls, ever, and he hasn’t since he was under 2. He also is very honest- if you ask him if he did something, and he did, he will admit it. But just to be sure, I asked my daughter as well (who is older and had no reason to lie) and both of them confirmed that actually, it was my friendsslaughter who drew on the walls. I had suspected as much, as for one my son hadn’t been doing drawing so didn’t have any pens, and for another thing, my daughters friend has drawn on the walls at my house before, so I know she does this. I also know that all her pens are water-soluble, so all she needs is to wipe the walls down and it will come off. I just thought the text was very rudely worded and unnecessary- as I said, her daughter has drawn on the walls at my house, and I just wiped it off. I just don’t think there’s any need to have a go at people about something so easily rectified. I would never have dreamt of sending her a text like that…
I know this all sounds really juvenile and trivial, but I’m just a bit fed up of my friend being so demanding, and being extremely ungrateful! There is a bit more back story to this, I won’t go in to all of it but the main details are- we started off taking turns having each other’s daughter for sleepovers, maximum one night a week. Somehow, this has turned in to me taking her kid usually about 3 nights a week, sometimes on school nights, and her never returning the favour, ever. Her daughter is ridiculously hard work. I have two kids of my own, and they are by no means perfect, of course they have their bad moods. But even when her daughter is in a good mood, she is dreadful. She’s very demanding, she’s rude to my children and to me, she never listens to what she is told, she constantly disobeys, and (this isn’t her fault) she still wets the bed nearly every night at 6 years old. I know she can’t be blamed for that, but it does make it difficult having her stay so often as I’m constantly running out of clean sheets. I guess I’m starting to feel like this friendship is a bit one-sided, and I guess I’m a bit hurt that I did my best to appease my friend today, and pretty much everything got thrown back in my face/wasn’t good enough. I’m also a bit hurt, I suppose. She’s my only other friend that has children and I don’t want to fall out over something so stupid.
That said, typing this all out has made me feel much better! Ugh, life’s too short for silly dramas like this.