- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Some of you know my situation… Feel free to read my previous post.
Well, I’m out of the house, car packed with all my things, apt still hasn’t gone through. Hoping by Sunday I can move in. A friend of our just offered this week that I can stay with them until I get my place. They said I’m welcomed anytime, doors are opened. I even told them I hate to impose and don’t like to ask for help, makes me feel uncomfortable. They insisted that I stay with then when needed.
I stood at my mom’s one last night yesterday and packed my car. I’m out! Can’t go back now. So in desperation I called our friend if I can take them up on their offer of staying just one night. (FI is working tonight and I don’t want to stay at his parent’s house alone or over stay there every night). Well, she said sorry but I can’t. Her step kids are spending the weekend or maybe the next three weeks there. She’s not sure how long, so there’s no room. I totally understand and no one is obligated to help me, but it’s just a little annoying that they offered, insisted at that, but didnt at least warn me that there was a possibility that the kids will be there and I won’t be able to. I just think its a little irresponsible to offer your help and when you ask, they say no. Am I in the wrong to be a little annoyed? FI even said why did they offer their help, if they couldn’t help.
I have too much pride sometimes and the same friend even told me if someone is offering you help, take it. So that’s what I did and I got shot down. Lol. No where to go, I’m now having to pay for a room at a motel, which I was so trying to avoid.
Ok, feel a little better that I vented. Haha
Would you offer your help to someone and then when they ask you, would you then say no? Do you offer to help to just be polite but have no intention to help or hoping they won’t ask? Lol