Post # 1
So yesterday, I posted about wanting to have a baby, but FI wants to wait at least a year from our wedding (which is 9 months from now). And as if right on cue, a friend of mine announces that she is pregnant due in July.
I’m just frustrated because this friend seems to do everything I want to do when I want to, but FI isn’t ready. For example, she got engaged two years ago after dating her b/f for less than a year. When I really wanted to get engaged at the same time dating my b/f for over 3 years. She got married in June, having been together just over 2 years, at the time FI and I were still not engaged and now that we are it means FI will be getting married just shy of our 6 year anniversary.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m very happy for all of her relationship milestones and the feeling I have isn’t really jealousy, I just can’t help but compare our lives. I completely understand that everyone’s relationship is different and moves at different paces. I know our lives are different, and I have my own noteworthy milestones and experiences as well. I just can’t help but feel a little irked. Thanks for letting me get this out Hive.
Post # 3
I think it’s natural to have that icky feeling when someone else has what you want, especially when it’s something huge like a baby! Maybe you could get a furbaby to tide you over until it’s time to start TTC? They’re part of the family, too. 😉
Post # 4
I understand where you are coming from, for me it was just frustration. Waiting isn’t easy and watching it happen for someone else always makes me think of how it will be when it happens for me and then I just want it more = frustration. You’re not alone.
Post # 5
@Mrs Grape: Oh I have a 90 lb dog, who thinks I’m her personal pillow. I’m doing my best to focus on her.
Post # 6
@divergirl: Oh, fun! 🙂 I know when I get the occasional five-second burst of baby fever, I focus on the cats (or watch “Rosemary’s Baby,” which seems to help. ;P). I hope your waiting period goes by quickly, though.
Post # 7
I’m in the SAME PLACE right now! My baby sister just had a baby and I can’t tell you how many of my friends are pregnant or just had babies. One friend got married and got pregnant all within a year of knowing the guy. My SO wants to wait about 2 years after we get married before TTC.
I’m bummed… BUT I know that the time that I have to just enjoy my husband will be so precious. We can travel and relax together before the stress of raising children. It will be tough, but I believe it will be so worth it!
In the meantime, I get my fix by playing with other people’s kids since they are allllll around me.
Post # 8
Sorry you’re feeling bad, but you should be happy you get to enjoy life and be a little more selfish for a while! New parents get no sleep, they can’t go out to dinner or the movies, their vacations (if they go on any) consist of dealing with sleepy, hungry kids, and babies are very expensive! I’m all about having kids one day, but it’s a huge responsibility and kinda scary to me, especially at this point where I’m not even married yet. You can go hang out with your friends’ kids and then go do fun adult stuff without feeling guilty!