- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
i heard back from our choice venue last night. she gave me a number, and laid it all out on an invoice and gave me a seating chart like i’d asked for. this is a venue that both FI and i loved. we went and saw it, and i was very comfortable with the coordinator, unlike i have been at other places. it’s somewhere that’s close to home, and somewhere that gives me the freedom to do a lot of things, and make more decisions than other places that we’d looked.
i was fine. the number we got back from the venue we liked? i wasn’t that much shocked by it. especially since i’d done preliminary math, and i knew it was going to be around $10k for the reception. i knew that, going in. and that $10k doesn’t include the cake or a dj or flowers or decor. it’s the venue, the food, and taxes.
the actual number, for 100 people, including all of the taxes? was $10,344.26. my photographer will be around $1800. flowers, i’m doing myself, it’ll be under $1000. dj, i haven’t looked into. cake, i want to do myself. honestly. when i look at prices that people are paying in my general area? the average wedding costs $25k. that’s average. because of where i live. it’s not easy to pull off a wedding for under $10k.
so the fact that i was told, by someone that i care about (and someone who is not involved in paying for this wedding), that i need to “rethink” my wedding plans? pisses me the f* off. trust me, i’ve done the goddamn research. i’ve looked all over the place. $10,344 is a really good price for what we’re getting. we’ll save. we’ll figure it out.
don’t freaking tell me that i need to “rethink” or “look at alternative options”. no. this is me we’re talking about. i don’t do parks. i don’t do outside. i do function halls and ballrooms and country clubs. this is me. this is what i like. it’s my goddamn freaking wedding, and if we have to start saving every bit of change that we get? so be it. i’ll make a jar. if i have to work and save every goddamn penny i make? so be it.
i will have a wedding i like. i will have a wedding i want. do not try and stop me.
(i edited my language.. sorry about that)