Post # 1
so we are less than six months to our wedding… its enough that the wedding is in hubby’s hometown, which is 22 hours away and I have only been there once. but i have done very well with planning, had help from a couple girls that i met when i was there (big hugs to them!!)
so our landlord decided to sell the house we live in, but now she is also trying to make it unbearable to live here so that we will mve faster and make it easier for her to sell. great, but there is seriously no houses for rent in our neighbourhood, so we have to look at moving to another part of the city, which also means the kids will have to change schools (which they are NOT happy about)
to top it off, i work a seasonal job (layoffs in the winter) and the boss called me and we had a meeting, apparently my job no longer exists, so now i have NO job either (which isn’t completely heartbreaking cause I didn’t want to go back there, but if i didn’t find another h=job, i would use that as my backup….
so, basically, i can’t even finish the invites cause i have no return address for the reply cards to coem back to, i have no job which really doesn’t help when you are looking for a place to live and i am sure that I have now turned every hair on my head grey!!!
when it rains it pours and I am tired of it right now, this is suposed to be a happy time planning our wedding and now that is basically on the back burner cause of these other things going on!!!
thanks for reading…i am sure we will get everything taken care of soon, but that’s just me being the optimist again!
Post # 3
I’m very sorry for your situation. You have a right to be frustrated, but don’t let it get you down! You have a wonderful man to marry, wonderful children… Those are permanent. These situations… they’re temporary. You sound like you have a head on your shoulders and are resourceful – when you get down, remember that it’s qualities like these that will get you into a better place 🙂
If I may make a suggestion – I know it may not be the Miss Etiquette thing to do, but just something to take some ease off your already stressful situation. You can have your parents’ or your husbands’ parents address on the STD’s and invitations, and they can bulk mail the RSVPs once you have an address.
Another option, although if money is tight not the most ideal, is to rent a PO Box so that you can manage all the incoming RSVP’s. The USPS PO box site says the rate varies by size, but I’m sure you won’t need a large one and will only use it up until your wedding, so maybe a 5-6 month cost at most.
Best of luck with everything – I’m rootin’ for ya!
Post # 4
Big Hugs so sorry your going through all this x
Post # 5
Thanks for the support Ladies, it’s so much appreciated. 😉
I am trying to remain positive thru it all, as hard as it may be…
I have thought about the po box rental as well, i think that may have to be my backup plan. our parents both live in different cities and provinces, so having them go there would be a nightmare…lol
Post # 6
*hugs* I have no idea what you’re going through, but my thoughts are with you. This has gotta be so rough. Is there a friend or family member whose address you can use for your RSVPs, or the suggestion of a po box? A very good friend of mine uses a po box still – she originally got it when she was “transient” (essentially couch surfing until she could afford an apartment again – she is a disabled veteran. She lived with one person for a few months, and then on to the next). If ever she gets a package too big for her box (its the smallest or second smallest), they drop a note and she picks it up when she can.
Post # 7
I totally understand how you feel- I have having lots and lots of crazy things happening in my life right now too (many great but still stressful) and it can detract from just being able to relax and enjoy the wedding planning process.
If PO Boxes are too expensive, can you use you Maid/Matron of Honor or Best Man’s address as a return addy?
Regarding the landlady- she sounds like a real doozy! Have you and your hubby to be sit down with her and have a polite but candid conversation? She can’t just push y’all out!
Hang in there!
Post # 8
You could have online RSVP for those on your list who are more tech-savvy and then for anyone without a computer/tech skills you could use your parents or his parents address for them to RSVP to. That way you’ll save $$ on stamps, there are tons of free wedding websites out there.
I’m having a sh*t time right now too, going thru a major betrayal by my parents, have an MIA Maid/Matron of Honor, Fiance who thinks bouquets and flowers in general are frivolous, a deposit date at our venue that’s off by 2 months and bank accounts that are dwindling quickly. Plus my parents (tho I’m not exactly talking to them) are in Mexico where a man from our province was just in the news for almost drowning.
GAH! Anyway, my point is, you are definetly not alone and if you need to talk/vent/rant, PM me! I totally understand.