Post # 1
As some of you who read my posts may know, FI and I are in a sort of long distance relationship. Every June-September during baseball season, he travels for work. He is gone for the entire duration (he doesn’t come home at all) and then comes home in the fall. Last year was the first year we did this, and it was pretty tough for me, being newly engaged.
This year he left March 11, and will be home Saturday (yay!) He wasn’t supposed to leave again until June. Well, we found out today that most likely he will be doing extended spring training, which means he could leave anytime. He is kind of just waiting on the call. This means he will be home for a week in June before his season starts.
I am at work, trying so hard not to cry. I know some of you are used to this kind of schedule, but I am not. I feel like my heart is breaking. This means he will be gone for a total of 6 months, and will return 2-3 months before the wedding.
I just wanted to cry/vent. Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that you guys are apart. It is the hardest at first. Just try and keep yourself busy with work, friends and wedding planning. It will all be okay!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry! I know how tough Long Distance can be, and its truely horrible to have to go through 🙁 Try to keep busy planning for the wedding and your life together, and remember how AMAZING you will feel when he gets home again!
Post # 5
Thank you for the kind words (and for moving my post! – – I always hit submit and then remember where I actually wanted to post!) One bright spot: he will now be home at least temporarily on Thursday instead of Saturday.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you guys will be apart for so long. I can imagine how heartbreaking it is to be away from each other. Is there a way for you to visit him?
Post # 7
It takes awhile to get used to this sort of stuff–after a month you’ll adjust. Just keep yourself busy, focus on the wedding (it REALLY helps to have the wedding!!!! Do projects for it and stuff) and enjoy your summer–hopefully it’ll fly by.
Is there any way you can plan a mini-rendezvous where he is? Whether you get tickets to a game he’s coaching at and you can spend at least a little bit of time together?
Growing up, a friend of mine’s dad was a professional baseball player for the Mariners, but we lived in California. He was pretty much gone the whole pro season, but when they played in Cali, the kids all got tickets and his family got to see him
Post # 8
I’m really sorry! Is there a way for you two to write each other love letters as a way to show you miss one another… I know you two are probably talking everyday. I’m so sorry!
Post # 9
@ejs – I try to travel to see him when possible, but unfortunately my work schedule makes it near impossible. Last year I spent a week there and went to his games.
We talk pretty frequently – probably 3-4 times a day, as well as texting, but as I’m sure you know, it isn’t the same!
Post # 10
I’m in a similar boat, my FI is a musician and when he tours he’s gone. In fact, he’s off to Europe in a couple of weeks. We’ve been doing this for so long that at this point I’m just jealous that he’s going to Europe and I don’t get to go this time but I know at times it can be really hard. You do get used to it and I know this sounds weird but I actually have come to enjoy it. I value my time that I have alone. I find I complete many more projects and get loads more done than when he’s home (it’s kind of ridiculous how much more I get done when he’s gone). I’m also a pretty independent person, I love to go on trips on my own overnights or day trips or even little afternoon excursions so this is the time that I get to do all the thing that I don’t normally do when he’s here. Naturally I miss him desperately and there’s tons we do together but the key is to keep yourself as busy as possible (go to the tea house with a couple of girlfriends or g spend time wandering the local antique malls or whatever things he might not be as into doing as you are). Plus make as many weekend trips as your schedule and budget will allow. Make sure both of you sign up for every and any airline mile program because (at least in our case) those pile up quick and it’s easy to hop on a plane Friday night or Saturday morning and be back Sunday night before work.
Post # 11
((HUGGS)) i can’t even imagine what you’re going through… i hope you are able to find activities to pass the time… and now you can look forward to that homecoming! 😉 nothing like distance to make two hearts grow fonder!
Post # 12
(((hugs))) that sucks, big time. 🙁
Do you have a good support network of friends and family in your area? People who you can spend time with while he’s gone? One of my good friends has a pilot for a hubby, and it was really hard on her when they first got married, because he’d be gone 3-4 nights every week, but it got a LOT easier when she got to know her neighbors and started having other people to spend time with. She still doesn’t like having him gone, but at least now she has healthy ways to deal with it!
Post # 13
I’m so sorry! Long distance is a hard experience to go through. My FI use to travel Aug. 1- the end of October for his job and I thought that was horrible. But he got promoted and doesn’t travel anymore, unless there is a crisis.
I sometimes wish he traveled because there was nothing better than seeing him after a few weeks apart!
Post # 14
It takes a lot of strength to be in a long distance relationship. My FI deploys for a year every other year. It’s the hardest thing in the world to not have him right by my side. What I always tell him though is ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder!’ You really tend to appreciate someone a heck of a lot more when they aren’t around as much. As much as it sucks not being with him for a year, it makes our relationship so much stronger to know that if we can survive this, we can survive anything. Good luck!
Post # 15
aww that’s tough.
i know the pain, sorta. my SO works at a kids camp as a head staff, and he leaves may 1 until the last week of august.
i want to say it gets easier, but i’m not sure it does. you find better ways of dealing with it, but the fact that they leave you for the whole summer etc is never fun, and i mean, i’ve been dealing with it for almost 3 summers now, and i still cry.
i’ll be sending good thoughts your way!
Post # 16
Thanks so much for all of your kind words. I can’t tell you how much it means to me to hear them.
About an hour ago, he got the official announcement. He will be home Thursday, and will be leaving again Sunday for 6 weeks in Arizona. It’s very painful right now, and I’ve walking around the hotel trying not to cry more than I already have.
Thank you again!