Post # 1
We have just over three months to go and I’m a mess. Aside from working 10 -11 hour days at work, I feel like this wedding planning has turned me into a raving lunetic! We are having custom letterpress invitations made and my mom is going nuts over tiny little things. She actually screamed at me over the phone while I was at work today because I wanted the word “and” in blind letterpress and she wanted it in color.
I’m jsut beside myself. I end up shutting the door to my office every day and bursting into tears. I can’t sleep at night and I feel like I’m losing my mind. I’m right at the point where I have to make all of the decisions about the flowers, invitations, music, calligrapher, get my dress fitted etc and on top of work, all of this to do, and my micro managing parents, I’m losing my mind.
When does it end?! This whole wedding planning has been a nightmare. I just want to fast forward three months for the wedding to get here. I also feel like I’ve been so on top of trying to get everything done as overwhelming as it is that it hasn’t even sunk in yet where I’ve gotten that “I’m a bride” moment. By the time we get married, we will have had just just of a year engagement, but I still haven’t really had that moment, which is so weird because every time I’m at a wedding I cry my eyes out and in the past whenever I thought about getting engaged to my Fiance or our wedding, I would tear up.
Help!!! When does this end??!!? Does it get easier? I’m not doing any DIY thank goodness. I don’t know how you other brides do that. I’m pretty sure I would need to be committed to a mental institution if I was doing all of that myself.
Post # 3
Oh, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. (((hugs))) I’m still 6 months out, so I can’t totally relate to what you’re going through, but I feel for you.
Would it help to just straight out say to your Fiance or your mom that you’re overwhelmed? They should step in and take some of the burden off of your shoulders.
I find it helpful when I’m getting overwhelmed to take a deep breath (or lots of them) and make a list of what’s bugging me. That helps me see what I actually have control over and what I just have to let go. Breaking things down helps them go from being this overwhelming cloud of “to-dos” and pressures and usually makes me realize that on an individual one by one basis, there’s nothing that can’t be taken care of.
It sounds too like you need to have a date night or something with your Fiance where you guys can reconnect on a personal, non-wedding basis. It can help you remember why you’re going through all your craziness. Because you love each other and want to make that lifetime comittment.
Ok so after all that, now I’ll stop telling you what to do and just wish you luck. I’m sure everything will work out. 🙂
Post # 4
I have felt very much like you do lately. Everytime someone asks me how wedding planning is going I say “I just can’t wait for this to be over with”. Then I realize how kinda horrible that sounds, but it’s pretty much true. It’s overhwhelming and frustrating to deal with all the little details and to make a ton of decisions. It has definitely starting getting worse for me in the last month or so and now the wedding is less than three months away.
So, I totally feel your pain! My suggestion is to take some days where you absolutely don’t do anything wedding related – don’t even think about it. I’ve also become less particular about things, which makes it easier to make decisions. Sometimes you have to remind yourself that not everything has to be the absolute perfect choice. Just make a choice on something and stick with it, it will feel so much better to get things crossed off your to-do list!