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Aw, Im sorry... Im sure hes planning a perfect moment...
Hang in there. :)
(Imagine the that sound of a recording scratching, then complete silence.) What is the deal with the sister??? Do you nt get along? Why would she say those things? She proposed to her boyfriend? Are you saying when your boyfriend showed her the ring, you feel like she wantedto hurry to get engaged and have her wedding first?
Mmmm. I would have a good talk with your boyfriend about this. I would get some things sorted out about what his sister is saying, and why she's saying those things. He should talk to her and call her out on all of this.
Also talk to your boyfriend about this business where he's teasing you. Just flat out tell him you are trying to wait patiently and don't want to pressure or push him, even though it's difficult because you know he has the ring (and basically have your hopes up that he is ready). But that you don't understand and really don't appreciate the teasing about how he keeps saying he was going to propose all of these nights.
Perhaps he doesn't realize it isn't funny to you. Or is it possible that this is some sort of passive agressive way of getting back at your for going out? Is it usually when you hang out with other people and he's at home? Are you more of an extrovert -have more friends, while he is more introverted or doesn't have many friends? Does he want to hang out with your friends? Does he have some insecurity, thinking if you're out with the girls you could meet someone else? (Not that you have to answer. Just trying to get you thinking about why he might be doing this.)
You are ready to marry the guy and he's bought a ring, but if he doesn't propose to you by next week, you're going to leave him? Please sit down and think this through. That's crazy talk! He's just getting to you with all the jokes. Do what Tanya said and explain that you aren't taking the jokes well. If you would really leave him, maybe you and him need to sit down and have a very serious conversation engagement or not. There has got to be other things going on if you feel that way.
Wow. Maybe he's waiting for his wacky sister's wackiness to die down a little bit.
Maybe his teasing is his way of alleviating his stress about the proposal. I agree with Tanya, I'd tell him flat-out that I don't like it. Say it makes you sad and upset and you're trying to wait patiently but it's frustrating. If he keeps up the teasing, well, that's informative. Be careful you don't encourage it by laughing or joking back -- if you do, you're reinforcing it and he won't know you're upset. I'm not saying to get super-pouty, but don't act like it's no big deal if it is.
i wouldnt stress too badly about it, although i would take the other bee's suggestions and tell him how his teasing is making you feel. i agree, you are jumping the gun a little bit by saying that you willl leave him if he doesnt propose by your 5 year anniversary, which is next week. calm down girl!!!! MORE than likely, it seems like that will be the night that it will happen. He has the ring and you have a major milestone anniversary coming up VERY soon...i think you know too that more than likely it will happen on this day! Breathe and ENJOY the FACT that your special day is coming very, very, soon!
in terms of his sister, slap the wench upside the head for talking all that smack! talk to your boy about why she is acting like this, and if needed have a mediation session between you, her, and have him play the mediator role (if it is possible for him to be the mediator, since he knows both of you well.) How well do you know his sister? has she always been like this to you for the 5 years you have dated your guy? if she is older than him, it is also very possible that she is very upset over the fact that he was about to propose, and that he could potentially get married before she does. the whole situation might not have anything to even do with you, but i hope that either way, you are able to iron it out!!
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Have you talked to him about how this makes you feel? I think it's one thing if he's just waiting for the right moment, but teasing you about it just seems cruel. I understand what it feels like to wait for him to propose, and it's not fun. I always told him that I didn't want to wait forever, but in my heart I knew the truth was I would. So, if you are seriously considering leaving him over this, put a lot of thought into those feelings.
As for his sister, I would have a discussion with your bf about this as well. If he really loves you, he would talk to his sister and let her know that it isn't ok for her to say those things.
I hope things turn out ok for you!
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My boyfriend of almost 5 years (living together for 2 years) is torturing me! He has had the ring for 4months and I have known about it since the day he brought it home. He has dangled it over my head for what seems like forever! I went out one night after work with some friends while he sat at home. He told me that he would have proposed, but I wasnt home. He bought the ring a week later and has been saying the same crap the whole time. Our 5 year anniversary is coming up next week and I'm thinkin of leaving him if he doesnt do it. His sister proposed to her boyfriend the week after he showed her the ring and now she is trying to ruin my plans by telling people in town that he proposed and i rejected him among many other lies. Im just gettin frustrated!!
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