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the wedding is August 28. and i got the invitation Monday. 4.5 months early! what the heck!! the rsvp date isnt until August 1, so i wonder how many people will actually forget. who does that? AND they sent a STD!
i think that 8 weeks is overkill!
she needs weddingbee.
Maybe she has a lot of people traveling far distances? Does seem early though - esp. if she sent STDs...
Wow! I honestly think that people who do that think that their wedding is going to be the highlite of everyones year. I mean common, whos actually gonna remember on Aug 1. OH! I have to send in that RSVP right away!!!
But I am the girl who sent out her invites wayyy to late! lol
OH wow that is really early! honestly i would forget if i got it that early. heck to remember i would mail it off now lol
Wow, that's crazy early! You're right, she does need the bee.
The only time I have heard of anyone sending their invitations out this early is for a friend's wedding where half of the guests lived in India and Europe.
That's crazy early. We sent our invites out a couple weeks early but some of my family have said they can't make it because they had already RSVP'd (a month prior) to another wedding on the same day!
I'm going to play Devils Advocate, and say that I don't think that it's unreasonable. I've seen a few calendars that suggest that you send out invites around 4 months in advance. And, if your friend has a lot of family travelling a long distance, they will probably want the extra time to make arrangements, save money for transportation costs, etc.
Maybe its a Bride Wars situation and she's trying to beat someone else to the punch? Lol
So, I will say that I plan on sending out my invitations for my Aug. 1 wedding as soon as I get back to LA, which will be around May 15 or so. Not QUITE so bad, but I wanted to do this so that I could make sure that I could have an early-ish RSVP deadline and I could know whether I would have space to invite more people whom I would like to invite based on some must-invites declines.
So, that may not be anything like what she has in mind, but there MAY be a method to her madness, and she's not just a raving egomaniac.
It seems REALLY early to me. I can understand if they maybe sent them out in June, maybe even May.
Maybe she has a really big guest list and wants to send out the A list now and the B list a bit closer to the wedding?
I would be really afraid that people can't accurately RSVP that early. You may end up wtih a lot of guests that say they can come but then something come up and some that could end up comng last minute.
So, I will say that I plan on sending out my invitations for my Aug. 1 wedding as soon as I get back to LA, which will be around May 15 or so. Not QUITE so bad, but I wanted to do this so that I could make sure that I could have an early-ish RSVP deadline and I could know whether I would have space to invite more people whom I would like to invite based on some must-invites declines.
So, that may not be anything like what she has in mind, but there MAY be a method to her madness, and she's not just a raving egomaniac.
I think she may have some legit reasons that maybe you don't realize.
I'm sending out my invites for my Aug 15th wedding May 15. Why? My biggest room block expires a full 2 months before the wedding and I want to give people time to get their acts together. I also need a count for people who need transportation to the site from the local Metro-North station, and for how many people need Kosher meals. I want to have these counts by June 30, so I can make the final arrangements.
My wedding is in 4 months and my mom thinks I should've already sent out the invitations (granted, haven't even ordered them yet...). The reason is that the wedding is in VA, and I live in MT and my fiance has lots of family out here, but we aren't sure how many MT folk are coming. So maybe it'd have been helpful if we just did our invites now so we'd know how many to expect, but I'm still working on save-the-dates!!
I got an invite 5 months in advance recently. I don't have a problem with it, but I know that if I wasn't planning a wedding myself and thus so sensitive to doing the right thing, I would have waited until the last minute to RSVP and then forgotten about it. Instead, I immediately dropped the RSVP in the mail and hope the bride appreciates it!
Yeah, my guess is that she has an A/B list.. so she is sending out to the A people now.. but that late of an rsvp deadline doesn't allow much time for the B folks! I'm going at 8 weeks almost exactly.
I'm sorry, but I don't think that is at all unreasonable. I have no problem with that. In fact, MINE will be going out about 4 months before the wedding. I don't think the bride is crazy or "needs" a weddingbee to tell her what to do or what not to do. My wedding is a destination wedding and everyone will be flying there or driving long distances to get there. Even though I did sent out save the dates months back, I also intend to give my guests to courtesy of several months notice so everyone can mark their calendars and make arrangements. Just because it is traditional to send out invites two months in advance does not make it wrong to do so earlier. What works for one may not work for another. Sorry, for some reason this struck a chord with me.
The only problem I see with doing it that early is that people are notoriously flaky when it comes to RSVPs and the more time you give them to do it, the less likely they are to actually do it. Sad but true fact about humankind.
Whooo-hooo that means I can send mine out soon!! 
She probably has an A/B list thing - or she is REALLY, REALLY excited!
I sent my invites 6 months in advance. I needed everyone to be booked two months in advance in order to get group fares and wanted to let people some time to think if they wanted to come, and if so, save money and make arrangements.
Maybe she has lots of people travelling and wants to give them time to organize their stuff and has other things to think about than sending all the invites at different times depending on if people are local or from farther?
It's kind of early but I don't think it's anything to debate over. She sent them, it's done, mark it on your calander and you're good to go.
We're definitely sending out invitations 4- 6 months before the wedding since family is coming in internationally (they account for half the guests) for airfare and hotel reservations. We figured instead of doing an international group and a local group we'd send them all at the same time and then so a e-mail reminder of sorts. "We're really excted to see everyone at the wedding...." That way it gets checked off the list.
I'm sending ours out 6 weeks early. We have to have final count 2-4 wks before the wedding. Plus, our blocked rooms will only hold until about 1 month before the wedding.
This is common fare for almost all of the weddings I've been to (3-4 months out). Maybe because none of them sent Save the dates? We're planning on sending ours out in early May and our wedding is August 14. What really bothers you about this?
We sent ours out early, not quite that early since we had just gotten engaged at 4.5 months but....we probably sent them out at least 3.5 months before. We had lots of people traveling from overseas or college friends who now were far away, plane tickets are often cheaper to book that far in advance. And we had a small enough list that if people hadn't responded whoever they were closest too tracked them down and said are you coming. But honestly we only had a few people who didn't respond by the rsvp date.
Honestly, I'd rather know early, even if I dont' respond right away. My calendar is usually filled on weekends by 6 weeks out so why wait?
We plan to send ours out six months before our wedding and according to my wedding planner this is customary for wedding with out-of-towners. Almost all of our wedding guests are coming from out of town and I dont think it is fair to them to send an invite 2 months before my wedding. They can get cheaper airfare and hotel prices the earlier they book. Plus, most of my friends who live in town work at hospitals. That means they schedule their work schedule 3 months ahead of time. If I sent them out 2 months prior they may not be able to come due to their work schedule.
I dont think that it is fair of you to assume that you know all the details regarding another persons wedding. I agree with rawrkitty, this post kinda struck a cord with me too.
We will be sending ours earlier than most. There is a big reason behind it though. The majority of my family is several states away. We live near a big university and it's the same weekend as a BIG home game and rooms are going to be scarce the closer you get to our date. However we will not be sending them out 4.5 months in advance. That's a little extreme.
I'm sending mine out as soon as possible for my August wedding. Airfare reasons.
I dunno, I'm an adult I can keep track of invitations I've recieved and respond appropriately. :) Besides brides have rsvp problems no matter when they send.
what does the date next to peoples names mean? the one to the right as you read a messages?
Personally, I would appreciate getting an invite that early. I have a life and it fills up fast, so I would love the opportunity to be able to mark that date on my calender, so I don't schedule something else on that day, plus if the wedding is far away, I would need to save up to go to it and if the invite arrived this early, I would have more time to get a better gift.
I just got an invite for the end of June. I was starting to worry about when she was going to send out invitations, since my cousin sent his out a month ago for a wedding in July. But that's also in Nicaragua, hah.
@tytbody... that's the wedding date of the person responding. (ie, your's appears to be July 11.)
By the way... good weekend to be getting married! :)
so some more details - this ISNT a destination wedding. both families are from within a couple hours drive of the wedding, and there are NO hotel blocks. i have come up with no reasonalbe answer to why i got an invitation so early. even with an A and B list - the rsvps are not due back until august 1, so that doesnt leave enough time for a B list.
just crazy.
oh, and i dont need to schedule a wedding that far out because my life fills up so quickly - she sent a save the date a month ago so i already knew the wedding date.
hmmmm. This post is a perfect example of why we all stress so much about our weddings. No matter what you do, someone will judge you. And maybe mock you on an internet board behind your back!
Maybe she will be unavailable when it is considered the "normal" time to send out invites. I received an invitation to a wedding a few days before the wedding. They sent everything off last minute (I think that is worse).
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