Post # 1
I am so frustrated! Last year around November I applied to the doctorate program that I have always planned on attending. There are only a few programs in my state, so I applied to the 4 that were in cities where DH would be able to find a job (we had both just graduated college in May at the time so he did not have a set job yet). I was rejected from all 4, without receiving any interviews. Around this time, DH got a job and we moved to Houston. The only program in Houston still hadn’t told me of my rejection by New Years (they aim to get decision letters out by “end of December”) so I called them and they informed me of the news. They then told me what my application lacked, so I spend the next 8 months fixing those things. I then applied in the early group to that program alone, since we are now established in this city.
In October I received a letter informing me that I was not selected early, but pushed into the “regular” applicant pool.
Now today I finally get an email saying
“We are pleased to inform you that your name has been placed in the group of alternates for the class entering in fall 2013.
At this time we cannot offer you a position in the class beginning August 2013; however, sometimes an accepted student drops out before the registration period, in which case a position opens up for an alternate. If this happens, alternates are notified by phone. We do not generally begin using alternates until March.”
Seriously. Just reject me already. My confidence has taken beating after beating with this. I’d like to just be able to move on. DH keeps saying that i should just apply AGAIN and again until I get in, but seriously I really can’t handle any more of this rejection! It takes a full year for the application process, so this means I won’t be able to apply again until next September, for the following August. At this rate the soonest I’ll start the 3 year program is August 2014.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Post # 3
I work in graduate admissions. Let me tell you that we have TONS of open space by the time falls around. We end up admitting at least 10 more students from our waitlist pool starting in around May.
Keep your head up!
Post # 4
Don’t worry and keep your head high! I weas a very distant alternate for my nursing class this past august and got in! Good luck!
Post # 5
Hang in there! The whole application process can be frustrating. Right after college, I applied to some very selective Masters programs and was not accepted two years in a row. I decided to apply for a different program and started that program this summer.
Just try to get as much experience as possible in a related field. I worked for 4 years before going back to school and the experience has been invaluable. I feel that I have an advantage over others who are right out of undergrad. Plus, once you graduate you will have lots to add to your resume!
Post # 6
aww i’m sorry, but don’t give up hope yet! the waiting list for grad program isn’t necessarily a dead end. have you been talking to professors in the dept you’re applying to, or just the admissions office? in my phd program, the profs actually have the most say–what’s most important in my field is if your research interests are a good “fit” with the faculty, especially with your advisor. if they know that this is your top/only choice, that can also boost you up on the wait list since they know you’ll say yes
Post # 7
Hang in there! Because as depressing as this is going to sound…. grad school itself is FULL of rejection. I’m finally completing my PhD this year, and with round after round of journal rejection before publication, grant application rejection, scholarship rejection etc… you need to build up some serious resilience! Lol. Smile and tell yourself that this is only the beginning, and you can and will do it! 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I know a LOT of people who got into grad school from wait lists/alternate lists. Don’t lose hope.
Post # 9
@MrsNerdy: No worries, if you are trying to get a phd rejection is something youll learn to take in stride (though you seem to have already learned this). I say pick some other field that will allow you to do the same thing and apply.
Post # 10
I know multiple people who got in off waitlists that went on to do great things in PhD programs….but as @subtlebee said, rejection is sort of part of the package with doctoral degrees lol, I remember once reading a piece of advice like “if you’re not constantly feeling stupid or confused or like there are a lot of unanswered questions, you’re probably not doing interesting enough things”–keep on challenging yourself!
Post # 11
thanks bees, you are all very reassuring. It is actually a professional school doctorate (physical therapy) rather than a PhD that requires all the personal work with professors, etc. I guess I shouldn’t give up hope just yet! And I guess if nothing else, it means my application was better than last year because I am at least an alternate.
It was funny, yesterday I swear I went through all the stages of grief when I read the email. At first I thought “eff this, I don’t care” then I was really angry at the school for the misleading email, then I started crying, and then I chilled out. I guess no bargaining, but still.
Thanks for the positive thoughts 🙂