Post # 1
My brother and sister-in-law (also my MOH) purchased this guest book for us last October. Really before I knew what I wanted and the colors of our wedding.
It’s a nice book which was handmade. But it’s just not me. Before I received it, I kind of had an image in my head of what I wanted because it was different but this particular one was several hundred dollars. And I didn’t even think of doing a search on etsy which I just did and now I am sick.
From a post not too long ago about guest books, @sironel posted this link. So I clicked and now I want. This is EXACTLY WHAT I WANTED. And the cool thing is, we could frame this and hang it in our home.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to disrespect my brother/sister-in-law by not having their book out but I know the tree is what I want.
How do I go about pleasing both of us? Suggestions?
Post # 3
I kinda had the same issue. My grandmother gave me a really um… not so me guest book. I had wanted to do a picture of us from our ceremony in the bahamas. I decided it would mean much more to her for me to use it then it would mean for me to use what I wanted.
Post # 4
How big of a priority is your guest book? I think it would be nice to use what they gave you, but if it’s really important to you, than I would try to find another use for their book.
Post # 5
Oh man, we are having the same issue. FI aunt gave us a very generic guestbook at our engagement party, that is nothing like anything I would have a chosen, and I want to return it and do a photobook guest book.. FI is pissed… when we figure it out I’ll let you know ;(
Post # 6
@stephinPA: What if you used that book at your shower? Ask your bridesmaids to pass it around to all the women at the shower and have them put their best bit of relationship advice in there. Then it get used in a really special way, but you still get to do what you want at the wedding.
Post # 7
Why not do both? People can leave you messages in the book you already have as there is much more space than on a leaf and then they can just sign their names on the leaves. Best of both worlds and no hurt feelings!
Post # 8
@Moose – that is a good idea. Only issue is, I’ve already had my shower. BUMMER! What if I used it at rehearsal dinner? Or is that completely tacky?
Post # 9
@stephinPA: Not tacky at all… do it!
Post # 10
I have to say that while I thought it was one of those wedding ‘must haves’, not very many people actually signed either of my daughter’s guestbooks. I had both custom made too, and was pretty disappointed in both the money I spent and the fact that they got little use. They were set up on beautiful tables with flowers, placecards and custom pens, so it’s impossible they were missed. Who thought it would be necessary to actually have someone stand there and have them sign? I certainly didn’t.
I’d use the one you have and not worry about hurting her feelings. The book is left open anyway, so who will notice the style or design?
Post # 11
Future KMM’s suggestion was really great! That way you can leave the one that was a present open on a table (colors won’t matter, then!) and also encourage people to sign a leaf :).
Post # 12
We’ll have a guestbook at the church, and then a big photo mat at the reception for guests to sign. I like your suggestion to use it at the rehearsal dinner! That way it gets used, but you’ll get what you want at the wedding.
Post # 13
How many guests are you anticipating at your wedding? If it is a lot, that tree might not be big enough. Maybe you could use it at the rehearsal dinner? If you think the tree would accommodate your guests, is the guestbook lined? Or are the pages blank? If they are blank, could you use it to scrapbook cards you have received?