Post # 1
I am overwhelmed with everything right now. In the midst of wedding planning I have 2 jobs (full time and part time). I am relocating to California. Job searching, interviewing, packing etc. My FI lives in California and I miss him like crazy. I am in a wedding in April. Hello STRESS! I just could use more support right now but everyone seems so consumed with their own lives and i totally understand. I am extremely independent but i NEED people right now. I feel like i have to accomadate everyone and always be sensetive to everyones situation. I have to be sensetive to my friends who are single who seem resentful towards me, divorced friends who may think of marriage negatively, family who think this is ab them etc. I feel like going on vacation for 2 weeks and coming back to regroup….but i cant bc i have a very demanding job. I need a personal assistant BAD. Just venting bc i dont feel like talking.
Post # 3
@MissPumps: People are usually willing to help but they often need to be asked to do something specific. “Can you come over one day and help me pack up the family room?”
Post # 4
You are right. I have avoided asking certain people to do things bc it ends up being more work than help. Example: I went to a bridal show and was going alone and so i asked my mom. I regret asking her bc 1. I had to go out my way to pick her up bc she didnt feel like driving when we were suppose to meet (we live in 2 dif cities) 2. Listen to her complain, 3. She drains me. i asked for my sister to come help and i got all kind of excuses. I know this is partly my fault bc i am impatient and i am easy annoyed with selfish/inconsiderate behavior.
Post # 5
Please don’t burden yourself with other people’s emotions when it comes to your wedding. They are adults, you shouldn’t have to think about their feelings so much that it’s like you’re holding their hands.
Your friends who are single or divorced can manage their own feelings. As long as you’re not rubbing their faces in it, you’re fine.
As for the family members who think the wedding is about them: well, they can think it’s about them all they want to, but it’s not. Don’t concern yourself with their opinions and what they want so much that you feel you have to listen to and consider everything they say. In most cases, that’s just not necessary.
Plan your wedding, and don’t allow anyone, even yourself, to make the process more difficult than it needs to be.