- 4 years ago
I hope you don’t mind me asking for advice.
We are getting married on 7-17-14. We are so excited, and just have been looking forward to this day!
Just when I thought I had life figures out, God threw a major curve. Last month I took my little girl to the doctor (dermatologist) for a little rash. While there he saw a very small spot on my back, and immediately said I needed to have it biopsied. i was shocked, I’m young and healthy no skin or health issues.
On 6-19-2014 just 4 weeks before my wedding day I was diagnosed with malignant melanoma cancer. 6-24-2014 I met with the surgical oncologist, and just 9 days ago I had major surgery to remove the tumor and several lymphnodes. My fiancée has been amazing. He has stuck my by side thought every visit and tear. I cant even describe the emotions. of course I asked if he still wanted to marry me with the diagnosis, he just looked me in the eyes, held me and said “don’t you ever ask me that again babydoll”- I sure do love him.
I’m supposed to be putting the finishing touches on our perfect day the same day I was diagnosed. It’s supposed to be the day you are the most pretty for the man you marry– and I’m just a mess.
However, made one promise to everyone the show will go on.
This is where I’m just lost:(
ihad my surgery, it was brutal. I have an 8 inch incision that goes from the shoulder across my back. There are 30+ stiches. I have a 5 inch incision under my arm, and a 3 inch incision on my lower back all that have stitches. I guess when lymphnodes are removed fluid gathers there, so I’m swollen. The pain from the incisions is bad—-AND so I can’t wear my dress now.
I just don’t know what to do. My little girl, she just wanted me to wear a gown- we are having a small beach wedding, but that was her wish me to wear to wear a beautiful long dress.
my issues- Ive accepted my scars/stitches will show:(
– my current dress has straps that rub on my incisions, so I have to find a new strapless dress
– I’m on a tight tight budget I didnt plan on another dress. I can’t return mine, and between everything I don’t have time to sell it before we leave for the wedding.
– I just don’t even feel pretty to try on dresses:( I’m about 118 lbs, but have gained 7 lbs with my new meds. I’m so sore, and I doubt anyone will want me to try on their dresses with incisions:(. I just feel yucky. — but I want this day for my family the kids, my fiancée, and I’ll do anything to make this the best day for them. The memories made will last a lifetime:)
I mean Im so grateful that this was found, and it will be treated and I will beat this, I’m blessed so so much love from my fiancée. but my heart is just so sad. I won’t be his beautiful bride. I can’t swim in the ocean with him, and Gosh- I can’t even wash my hair myself.
Soooo I just need advice on the dress- should I just forget it, grab something at Kohls white or off white, should I see if a bridal shop will help me?
I have a million other things- I was going to do all the set up and decorating etc for the wedding I just physically can’t now. I hate asking others for help. Family and friends that are coming from far away for our wedding I feel bad asking. But that’s just stuff:) what matters is everything else.
Sorry so long, I guess it turned into a vent and some help. i don’t mean to sound sorry for myself, Its just been a long couple weeks.