Post # 1
I finally landed a job that I have been working hard to be promoted to. I am working with a new supervisor so I am getting to know them on a professional level and hope to work onto an on par personal level.
The kicker is I found out a person whom I feel uncomfortable with has volunteered to work in the same room as I am. I always am trying to be nice and polite to everyone who I work with.
However this person that is coming to volunteer in the same room is the complete opposite. She is rude, very vocal and likes to take over. She also likes to talk about people behind their back and makes observations about people’s flaws and finds it amusing to pick apart people. One time at a training day, this person used such vile language and was talking about personal sexual matters that it was embarrassing.
Generally I loathe this in a person. And from another co-worker who has worked with this particular person. My co-worker told me to watch my back, and to try not let this person take over my job. I was hoping for a quiet year this year with my new supervisor and myself working on projects but now I feel so annoyed and pissed
That this person has taken it upon themselves to come into this space. I know what it is like to be the third wheel at work as only one person will not know what to do. I don’t want to have this happen again.
I think what irks me about her is one time on Facebook I was having a personal joke with a co-worker about “special bumblebees” and this person posted “SmileyKitty you are very special, lol.”
This disgusted me, I have a few health issues and I deal with them on my own. I know what this rude person was alluding to in regards to the term “special” and I was not thrilled.
I want to have a few words with the supervisor, however my other co-worker said “The job can not turn away volunteers on projects.”
What can I do? Should I just have a word with my supervisor and ask what jobs do they require me to do? So I can just get on with it, hoping this person will not bug me?
Any ideas or advice?
Post # 3
Being that you are in a new position, basically starting a new job with a new supervisor, I would tread lightly. I understand why these things are irritating and seem inappropriate, but I think if anything you should be confronting your coworker and not going to your supervisor. As annoying as she is to you, sometimes you just have to be professional and work with people you don’t like. We all do it, and hopefully after this project she’ll be gone. If you are unsure of what your expected duties are, definitely talk to your supervisor about that. since you are in a new position, I am sure they expect questions. Congrats on the new job!!!
Post # 4
Definitely tread lightly and keep a good attitude. Perhaps when she comes into your space you two can set some mutual ground rules to try to keep the peace.
Also, just unfriend her on Facebook. You don’t need to add extra drama to your life!
Post # 5
I’m not really sure why it matter if this coworker is rude, inappropriate, etc. Let that person make an ass of themselves, and just distance yourself. If you have to work together, be courteous and that’s it. If they want to attack you and make stupid little jabs, just show them you dont care what they have to say. If you show they can get to you, they will feed on it and continue. Show them you dont give a shit, and they will find someone else to feed on.
Post # 6
First off, congratulations on your promotion! I’m sorry this person is raining on your parade but I agree with the others, tread lightly.
I would defriend her on Facebook and then try to ignore her as much as possible. For example, she makes an inappropriate/lewd joke, you pretend you didn’t hear her, she calls you up on it and you say “oh, I thought I head someone say ____ but didn’t think that could possibly have been you!” Just let her make a joke of herself, which she will, soon enough. Watch your back and never let her learn anything personal about you (not even how you take your coffee) – it will give her less ammunition to harm you. Good luck and I hope she quits soon!