Post # 1
I have two years until estimated wedding date, but I’m the biggest procrastinator and I’d like to get started on the planning as early as possible – at least getting some ideas worked out well in my head and getting on the same page as my fiance.
We have a couple dates picked out but haven’t even told our parents, and we want to have the wedding in my parents’ backyard with about 150 guests. We think we want to have a potluck wedding, but reading posts about it is making me reconsider, even though I’m not ready to spend $10 a plate on our guests.
We’re definitely going to make our own cake or enlist my mom, who made hers, but even that is freaking me out.
We’ve been talking about our wedding for ages and it felt like it would be so simple – casual wedding, free space, help with food… but then you have to consider where are you getting table/chairs, will people be okay with providing food, do we want to forgo gifts to begin our life? and where do we get alcohol?
I’m anxious about asking our parents for financial help and don’t know how to bring it up even though I’m sure they’re willing. My parents are the type that you have to push to make a decision, and I just don’t feel comfortable with it.
Any advice about where to start/how to keep from freaking out? My goal is to have the cheapest wedding possible, but when you start factoring everything in it feels impossible.
Post # 3
I don’t have much advice. I’m about to start planning a wedding for next October with a VERY tight budget (under 5k for sure). I came across this and it made me feel like I can actually pull it off if I search around hard enough:
Post # 4
@glitter-girl: Thank you so much! This breakdown really does seem manageable.
Post # 5
where are you located? i’m sure someone could find you an affordable caterer. or, if you’re planning a casual backyard wedding, maybe you can do a couple main dishes (grilled meats, lasagna, meatballs, whatever), and have guests bring sides? that way, it’s not completely potluck, but you can cut costs that way.
other ways to cut costs:
- DIY your flowers, or don’t do flowers at all.
- find a used dress, or buy something more casual.
- DIY as much as possible. flowers, invitations, decorations, favors, cake.. or find people who can help.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
I suggest googling a timeline or going to The Knot for a timeline. It will help you out. For the budget you can get some inspiration online as well for the amount you want to spend. I bet you could do your backyard wedding for every less than $5000. I am shooting for $5000 as well, as long as my parents pay for the catering I think it will work out.
Post # 7
Ok, well first off I wouldn’t ask anyone for money. If they offer, by all means accept, but asking is rude IMO. Set a budget.
After budget, sort out your venue. You want to have a backyard wedding, but make sure you’re thinking about rain plans as well- do your parents have a large shed or covered area? If not, you may need to hire a marquee/tent, and they can be expensive.
Then I’d sort out the catering. $10 pp is a crazy good price. The cheapest I found was $25pp (with lots of variety, plates, cutlery and napkins) and I jumped on that, because there was no way I could find a better deal. I would seriously consider shelling out for the $10pp if it’s possible, to save yourself the hassle of cooking, buying the food, making sure it’s ready on time ect. If you can’t afford it, I’d opt for an after dinner or lunch reception, where you can provide finger foods and cake (I did that for our e-party, and it worked out fine, but we did do a lot of cooking/preparing food the 2 days before and a little during the party).
After that, organise the celebrant and photographer, and anyone else you need (hair, make up, dj ect).
We’re having a DIY wedding, we only hired the venue, caterers, photog and celebrant. Maybe a hair stylist too.
Then sort out attire. You’ll need around 4 months for your dress to come in if you order it fron a salon (unless you buy a sample).
Post # 8
@colorofmyheart: We’re in the Indianapolis area, but with our estimated guest list it will be hard to find something for less than $2000.
I’ve been looking at used dresses – going to look at boutiques to see what style fits and then find something similar used for under $300. I’m already planning on taking all the flowers out of my mom’s garden, so we’re good there, thank goodness!
Thanks for the tips!
Post # 9
Don’t freak out, you have plenty of time and trust me it will all come together. I have about 40 days left and started planning in March of this year, so a total of 8 months. Be sure to get a wedding planner book, so you can keep all your things and reciepts organized and stay on budget.
I took some of the stress of myself because I chose a venue that will do it all, they have deocrations so all I had to do was buy a few table runners and some candles which cost me $70 bucks. They take care of all the food and drinks and will decorate for me as long as I give them my items. We are also doiing a dessert bar with a small wedding cake and the bakery is taking care of setting all of that up.
What I suggest doing first is selecting your date and booking your venue and then bookig your photographer and your DJ. If you don’t belong to a church and want a church wedding find a church. ( I belong to a church but to keep it easy on my guest, we are getting married at the same venue where our reception will be held)
The Dress, the menu, the decorations, the tux and flowers will all in fall in place.
Post # 10
@Lovemelovemyhorses: Thanks for the tips! As I said, I have no idea where to start – including etiquitte. Which is why my go – to is to not ask for help!
Post # 11
@maribee: I posted this post a few hours ago… maybe the comments could help.
Post # 12
@maribee: Check out this book! It’s been very helpful!
Post # 13
@maribee: I’m in New Albany! Right across the bridge from Louisville. I am kind of in the same boat, shooting to get married next October. I think $10pp is an awesome price! I haven’t found anything less than $22 pp after fees ect.. I would agree to find venue first then caterer. I’ve been trying to find venues where I can bring in whatever caterer I want and supply the alcohol. We have a friend that owns a bar and we’re going to try to order through him. Or buy from outlets/SAMs ect.. There are quite a few pins on pinterest that breakdown how much alcohol is needed for a reception based on the # of guests.
Also tables and chairs can be expensive to rent but if you get to use the backyard for free it would definitely be worth it.
Photographers- you want a good one because pics, IMO, is one of the most important things to budget for. However, if you search, ask around, check your local board, fb ect. You’ll be able to find a good one no matter what your budget.
I checked my local board on here and got a lot of feedback on caterers, venues, photographers ect in my area… Good luck!