Post # 1
My finace and I have been togther for like 10 years, and are finally getting married. About the SiteWe’re paying for everything ourself and need to be budget freindly. Anyway, I have like a year and a half to plan, and the plan was to start early and do a bit at a time to aviod stressing since I forsee myself diying a large portion of my wedding.
My problem is this, I have seen all the timeline templates, but I’m having more trouble with knowing what you have to have at a wedding. Example, do you need escort cards, menus, etc? Do you have to have favors? that kind of thing. I am not traditonal in any way, nor do I have any religious belifs. I don’t want to look super cheap, but I aslo dont want to spend money on stuff that maybe my guests won’t miss. Also, not too sure what to do at a reception, I get dancing and eating, but I know thre’s alot more to it than that.
I know I have tons of time, but I already feel lost. Any advice, tips, books to recommend, sites to read?
Post # 3
My opinion is to make it your own. I am having a fall wedding on a Sunday with brunch. We have an uneven bridal party, and we are not decorating with any fall decor. My colors are navy blue and yellow (because those are our favorite colors) and we are planning to do things that make us happy and not really following the “rules”.
Do what makes you happy, all I really remember about the weddings I have been to are whether or not the bride and groom enjoyed themselves, and did they look in love. Food is food, cake is cake, and music is music. Make the most of your day so that you can enjoy it.
I did my a book, more of a check of list from The Knot. I use it as a loose guide as to what I need to make sure to check of my list.
One things i can tell you that saved us a lot of money, was booking our venue in the “off” season.
Post # 4
I am DIYing my wedding because we are paying for it as well. I am not doing any of the table numbers, menus, etc. We are just going to have a buffet and let people sit where they want to sit.
As far as favors go, I read once that some people consider favors tacky. I might end up giving people cookies or something like that as favors, but I can’t imagine stuffing 75 organza bags with stuff that they may never use.
Post # 5
what i learn from this whole process (i’m planning mine too!) is that you don’t have to anything that you don’t want to do. nothing is required.
if you don’t have the budget for favors, don’t do it. if you don’t want escort cards, use a master seating list (which you can easily print off from computer). you can also DIY some of the stuffs rather than buying everything.
on the other hand, if you want to have 3 different favors for each guest and you can afford it, then go crazy! it’s really about what and how you want your wedding to be 🙂
it’s good that you start planning early, you have time to be creative and enjoy the process 🙂
Post # 6
by the way, if you are hiring a MC/DJ, you can ask for their suggestions on activities to do during the reception. they usually have some fun games in mind.
Post # 7
Favors are something that I think you can either go crazy with or do something really simple and cheap. I leave most weddings, bring the favor home and throw it away (especially if it’s a candle or something non-edible). But I’ve been to one wedding where the bride and groom made a donation to a charity in the wedding guests’ names in lieu of favors and there was a simple little card (you could print them yourself at home and cut them out) at each place setting making guests aware of the donation and included the name of the charity. The guests never knew exactly HOW MUCH money was donated, so that allows you to donate whatever amount you can afford. I was so glad to see this, because I’m sure I’m not the only one who promptly disposes of wedding favors (unless I can eat them – which I guess is a form of disposal in itself). I definitely think you can DITCH menus. Not all the weddings I’ve been to have provided menus at the tables. Escort cards aren’t a huge expense (especially if you do them yourself – print them out at home on cheap cardstock and cut them out yourself). They don’t have to be fancy or expensive, but it’s really helpful to have something like that to tell guests what table they are sitting it (you DON’T have to have another set of cards at the tables telling guests exactly what seats to sit in.. if they know what table they’re at they can choose their own seats). I don’t like the idea of a master seating list. Been to a wedding where that was the case and people had to stand in line for their turn to look at the list. At one point there was a group of people crowded around one list. A lot of bakeries do faux wedding cakes now. They make a cake out of styrofoam and cover it in icing (which makes it look like a real cake) and then you have sheet cakes out back that your guests don’t really see and then the sheet cakes are cut up and served to guests without them realizing that they aren’t actually having a piece of the faux cake. This can save you hundreds of dollars. If you have a sams club near you then you can order flowers in bulk for much cheaper than if you pay a florist. If a friend or someone in your family is good at arranging flowers, you can enlist them to help you make centerpieces and/or bouquets. Sometimes the ladies who work at craft stores like “michaels” or “ac moore” or “joann fabric” (not sure what kind of stores you have around you) are really good at arranging flowers.. so it might be worth asking around to see if anyone does wedding flowers on the side. Do whatever you can to avoid working with a professional florist because that’s a huge expense in itself. Good luck!
Post # 8
@TingTing is so right–the best thing you can keep in mind is that it’s a reflection of you and FI. That means that you devote your planning time to what is important to you two, and as for the other elements–if you don’t see a need for them and/or think that they will be too stressful to be worth it, just chuck them! Or make them as simple and stress-free as possible. Menus aren’t necessary. If you do have a menu, don’t need to set one at every place–you can always print a copy or two of the menu on a home computer using a pretty font, pop it in a frame and place it in the gift, drink, or cake area.