Post # 1
Do you welcome people that just stop by your home? They dont call or anything, just swing by?
I always thought that was kind of weird and even a little rude, just to stop by someones house unannounced. I dont expect an “appointment” but atleast a text warning. you know?
Anyway, now that we live in Chicago (from a small town), its almost unheard of. Which is fine with me. 🙂 but a few times something weird has happened and it totally freaks me out. We live in a condo complex and there is a gate, then a buzz caller. Then two locked doors before you get to the hallway. So, its pretty secure. Anywho, tonight (about 730pm) someone called on my buzzer. I check out the window and there was no delivery truck or car of anyone I knew. I couldnt see who was standing there so I just ignored the buzz (sometimes people accidently hit the wrong buzzer). About 5 minutes later someone lightly knocks on the door.
I was alone and decided not to answer. Would you have answered?
I feel kinda freaked out. Like, who could it have been? I dont know of anyone who would stop by without calling or text me if I didnt answer.
Post # 3
I never answer the door if I’m not expecting anyone where I live right now. In my small hometown, maybe, but its because I can see through the window lol
Post # 4
I never would have answered – people don’t ever stop by our house unannounced so it would freak me out! You need a peep hole! Did you recently move there? Maybe it was someone who thought the old tenant still lived there?
Post # 5
I don’t answer the door unless I know who it is. We have a peep hole though so I can see through it. I would not have in your situation!
Post # 6
@MrsWBS: we have a peep hole, I was too freaked out to look out it LOL. we have lived in this condo since March, the old owners havnt lived here in like 2 years. so, I doubt it is that, good thinking though!
@Eva Peron: same here. I live in a nice neighborhood but it is chicago and there are total freaks everywhere….
I called Darling Husband right after and asked him to leave work asap 😀
Post # 7
I live in an incredibly small town and people stop by all the time. But it is a little different becuase I work in the schools a lot and live accross from the park so kids know they can come in for water, bathroom etc. I think this is perfectly fine in a small town, but in a larger city I don’t know if I would trust people. There are even times here when I lock my doors up tight when strange groups are in town.
Post # 8
@globalmargaret: interesting! yeah, its totally different in a big city.
Post # 9
I’ve only ever stopped by a friend’s apt who lived in the same complex as me. We studied abroad together and used to stop by each other’s rooms all the time so it seemed normal to continue it. I was always happy when she stopped by because I was fairly lonely that summer (liked with Fiance then Boyfriend or Best Friend but he had to work a lot and it was summer so there were no friends around). I usually texted before I showed up though. And she had no problem telling me it was a bad time and visa versa.
Post # 10
Totally the norm in small towns. We NEVER called to visit someone. You just walked over. It’s just a more relaxed, trusting environment I think. I mean, we wouldn’t lock doors, we’d leave doors and car windows open. You’d pop by people’s houses whenever you fancied a visit and you were always welcome. At least that was my experience growing up in different smaller communities all over the states.
Live near Baltimore now and it’s a little different. I don’t care for people knocking on my door now because 98% of the time it’s a salesman and they always pick the creepy time where I just got out of the shower or after it’s dark and I’m alone. But I miss people just visiting. Thinking it might have more to do with the fact that people were closer when I was younger. Now they can barely bring themselves to txt you and need several weeks notice just to arrange a visit. Little over the top for me.