Post # 1
Ok, I’m stressing out a bit here. I’m so sorry this is going to be long. Our wedding is on Saturday and our DJ called us last night to go over everything. All in all, the conversation lasted about 20 minutes.
First off, I could barely understand him.
When I spoke with the music coordinator last week he asked if my husband’s was latin. I told him yes, but he was born in the states. He then suggests a DJ (let’s call him Eddie) and says is from Brazil and has a great selection of latin music. I told him that Eddie might not be the best fit seeing as my fiance does not speak any spanish. He said that was fine and they had plenty of other DJ’s. Fast forward to yesterday and Eddie, our hand picked DJ, calls me. His accent is so thick I have to ask him to repeat himself several times. He then proceeds to brag about himself for, literally, ten minutes. He is telling me of all his DJ escapades and how this one time he got on the dance floor and taught everyone the “Wobble” because it was clear nobody knew what they were doing. There were about 3 other stories about how great he is but I could not understand what he was saying.
He then tells me that the night of the reception during dinner he will hand us his list of over 2,000 songs and a highlighter and we can pick music that we want played. I stopped him here. I told him we already picked over 20 songs (the recommended amount) on the website and sent them to the coordinator. He shuffled around his papers for a while and says “Yes you have picked some good musics here, but I still like to give you guys a list and a highlighter during dinner while you are sitting to pick what you would really like” WTH? We are going to be constantly bombarded all day with questions from the photographer, caterer, guests. I thought we could at least enjoy dinner? This is why we pre-picked the music weeks ago.
He concludes our conversation by telling me what a great discount I got (half off). He tells me what my full price would have been then says that the normal tip for him would be at least 15 to 20 percent of that. Wait, what??? That’s $250! That’s 1/3 of what I payed for his services! For a tip? I’m on a budget here. Hence the off season wedding in freezing November. I was planning on giving him $100 and I thought that was really generous. I stayed silent on my end while he goes on to explain that he is going to be traveling over 2 hours (I already paid $150 extra for travel costs) and that although he is not required to wear a tux, he will be wearing one so that he will look nice for our special day. Is this supposed to make me feel bad? So I feel obligated to tip him more?
I’m so confused. Please help. I want to call the music coordinator at the main DJ center and request a different DJ. Am I being unreasonable? Is it normal to tip that much for a DJ? I am so stressed now about our DJ not being the right fit at all.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Listen to your gut- call the music coordinator now and tell them your concerns.
RIDICULOUS to ask the bride and groom to highlight songs at dinner. Has this man ever been to a wedding? Sorry, but you are going to be WAY too busy for that.
That requested tip also seems out of control- the fact that he even mentioned it is crazy.
Post # 4
I’m stunned that he brought up the word TIP. Wow.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Call the music coordinator ASAP! This doesn’t sound good.
Post # 6
@rebwana: I think I’m going to do that right now. I took the rest of the week off work to handle last minute wedding stuff and I didn’t think this would be one of them. I need to work up my courage. I am such a push over.
@Diamond84: I was too! I don’t know how long I was quiet for because I was so stunned.
Post # 7
Definitely talk to the musical coordinator. This would worry me!
Post # 9
Nope nope nope. You can do this! Get yourself a new DJ!
Post # 10
euuch. I agree with you OP, and I don’t think this guy is a good fit for you.
Don’t feel bad about requesting a different DJ. I’m sorry this is happening so close to your wedding. I can’t believe he was rude enough to tell you how much he should be tipped, and that he thinks it would be ok to impose on you during your rehearsal dinner.
Post # 11
call the music coordinator. This DJ is not going to work.
Post # 12
I have started to realize that a lot of these bigger companies (aka. not independents) really don’t offer customized service.
I talked to a lot of DJs and companies and found that the bigger DJ companies just offer a cookie-cutter experience. They are afraid of a DJ ruining their reputation so they tell them all to do the same thing: announce this way, play this music, have this timeline. So it doesn’t surprise me that he’s giving YOU a list and telling you to chose.
Post # 13
@Babyroni: Oh helllllllllllllllllllllllll no. Get yourself a new DJ stat!
Post # 14
“I don’t think Eddie is the best fit for our wedding. Please assign another DJ.”
“Our opinions on what a DJ should do the night of the wedding don’t seem to jive. Please assign another DJ.”
Eddie is great, he will be awesome.
“We would like you to assign another DJ.”
Just keep repeating it.
“Please assign another DJ.”
He doesn’t sound like he knows what he is doing. I wouldn’t use him.
Post # 15
@Babyroni: He wants you to spend your few moments when people aren’t bugging you to take pictures and go talk to your Great Aunt Mildred to go over his 2000 songs?! WHAT?! No!
Do not be a push over. This is YOUR wedding and you have every right to be totally comfortable with anyone you are paying for their services. It was seriously straight up racist for the coordinator to just assume you MUST need the Latino DJ because your FI is Latino, even though you told her you guys don’t even speak Spanish. I hate it when people try to pull that shit with me just cause my last name is Spanish.
Post # 16
@MexiPino: I know! My FI has told me numerous stories about growing up and being ostracized for being the minority when he doesn’t even speak spanish, and now they give us a dj based on his last name?
Thank you for the words of encouragement! I just tried calling the number with my list with bulletpoints in front of me for support and there was no answer. Just rang and went to a busy signal. No option for voicemail. Crap. I am freaking out now.