Post # 1
FI and I sent out invitations a about two months ago, so fairly early. The RSVP by date is tomorrow, and NONE of his friends have! I only need a few more, and they’re from friends who need a little more time to figure out schedules and everything. But we’re going to be gone for a couple weeks, and we really need to know whose coming beforehand! We leave in a week! Most of MILs friends have sent RSVPs, but almost none of FI’s personal friends have. Its so frustrating!
Post # 4
Yep, give them a call. I agree that it’s a little early so explain the situation to them.
Post # 5
I agree with the other bees. Maybe they forgot to send it. Just call them up.
Post # 6
@Tigerlilybride: I know what you mean!!! It’s so frustrating. We set our RSVP deadline for July 17, but our invites went out a month ago. I know people have time, but I wish they would just tell us already!
But given that your RSVP deadline is nearly past, I would just call them and ask. 🙂
Post # 7
We’ve been trying to contact them, but can’t get most of them. FI knows where thay all live but is too lazy to actually drive and ask them (they’re all at least half an hour away so it does make sense). Plus we live near Calgary where all the flooding happened last week, and one girl might actually be evacuated! the rest don’t have any excuses though.
Post # 8
I would not have called until after the RSVP date had come and gone with a buffer of a few days. But it IS odd that you can’t reach anyone. They aren’t answering texts? It’s possible that they put the invitation away and assume they have more time. RSVPs are generally 3 weeks ahead and yours are over a month. It’s also possible that they misplaced the invitation. That’s a risk of sending them any more than two months or so ahead. None of those are excuses of course!
Post # 9
@Tigerlilybride: Unfortunately, this is what happens when you send out your invites too early. They more then likely got them, thought there are months until I have to reply, and promptly put them in a drawer forgotten about forever. But it is too late now for you to undo that. (Though hopefully other brides can learn from you).
Call (not email/text) people and ask for their response, and meal selection, if this was an option. It’s really all you can do at this point.
Post # 10
I have a feeling this is going to happen to us, as we have an RSVP deadline of August 1st for our October 5th date. But I did that since I have some B-listers in mind. We’ve gotten 4 RSVPs back out of the 40 we sent, and they’re from people we know will be coming, anyway!
I’m so impatient <sigh>.
Post # 11
@Tigerlilybride: I feel your pain. Don’t worry it’s just not weddings, it’s baby showers too and everything else. You’re not alone. 😉
Post # 12
We sent stds our a year in advance. Invites went out six months in advance. Deadline is still a couple months out but we have only gotten 6 rsvps back and its from parents siblings, a couple aunts and a couple cousins. yeah its a DW I know most ppl won’t go. But I’m with u, OP. Send back the dang card if ur not going. Easy. Simple. Curteous. Even one day after the deadline I have no qualms about contacting ppl and telling them I have to put them down as a no if they don’t send their card back in the next day or so.