Just tell us if you can come!!!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Call them up and ask.

Post # 4
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Yep, give them a call. I agree that it’s a little early so explain the situation to them. 

Post # 5
Member
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I agree with the other bees.  Maybe they forgot to send it.  Just call them up.

Post # 6
Member
4043 posts
Honey bee

@Tigerlilybride:  I know what you mean!!! It’s so frustrating. We set our RSVP deadline for July 17, but our invites went out a month ago. I know people have time, but I wish they would just tell us already!

But given that your RSVP deadline is nearly past, I would just call them and ask. 🙂

Post # 8
Member
6888 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would not have called until after the RSVP date had come and gone with a buffer of a few days. But it IS odd that you can’t reach anyone. They aren’t answering texts? It’s possible that they put the invitation away and assume they have more time. RSVPs are generally 3 weeks ahead and yours are over a month. It’s also possible that they misplaced the invitation. That’s a risk of sending them any more than two months or so ahead. None of those are excuses of course!

Post # 9
Member
3223 posts
Sugar bee

@Tigerlilybride:  Unfortunately, this is what happens when you send out your invites too early.  They more then likely got them, thought there are months until I have to reply, and promptly put them in a drawer forgotten about forever.  But it is too late now for you to undo that. (Though hopefully other brides can learn from you).

Call (not email/text) people and ask for their response, and meal selection, if this was an option.  It’s really all you can do at this point.

Post # 10
Member
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a feeling this is going to happen to us, as we have an RSVP deadline of August 1st for our October 5th date. But I did that since I have some B-listers in mind. We’ve gotten 4 RSVPs back out of the 40 we sent, and they’re from people we know will be coming, anyway!

I’m so impatient <sigh>.

Post # 11
Hostess
10876 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Tigerlilybride: I feel your pain. Don’t worry it’s just not weddings, it’s baby showers too and everything else. You’re not alone. 😉

Post # 12
Member
2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We sent stds our a year in advance. Invites went out six months in advance. Deadline is still a couple months out but we have only gotten 6 rsvps back and its from parents siblings, a couple aunts and a couple cousins. yeah its a DW I know most ppl won’t go. But I’m with u, OP. Send back the dang card if ur not going. Easy. Simple. Curteous. Even one day after the deadline I have no qualms about contacting ppl and telling them I have to put them down as a no if they don’t send their card back in the next day or so.

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