Post # 1
Im really panicing now, this is not planned. I havent seen a period for about 6 weeks so I decided to take a test. First one was positive, then took another… Thats positive to! The worse bit is we are getting married 14th July 2014 and I will be due around that time. All the deposits are paid off and save the date cards out… What do I do. Can I postpone the wedding?? If I do will I lose the deposists or will teh venue ect be ok if I stay with them just change the date? I am so confused… I have been engaged for 2 years and with my fiance for 5, we have been planning our wedding for 2 years also. I was going to go wedding dress shopping next week :'( I really dont know what to do!!!
Post # 3
First off- CONGRATS! This is exciting!
Second, don’t panic. Contact your venues and whatnot. Talk to them. They may very well be able to work with you.
I unexpectedly became pregnant 7 months before my wedding, and had to re-schedule. All of my vendors were VERY understanding and actually congragulatory. We had the wedding 6 months after my DD was born, and it worked very very well.
Post # 4
@brutalbaby13: First, congrats! Second, your best bet would be to call the venue and all the others and either move the date up or push it back further. They will most likely not refund you if you cancel.
I would start with that and work on it from there.
Post # 5
I would move the wedding UP rather than back. Get married while pregnant, then when you have your baby you will have your little family started and no extra stress for wedding planning. Also, head to the doctor to make sure you are doing ok. If you haven’t had a period in 6 weeks, it is more likely that you are due near the 1st of June, but you should have the dates checked. Good luck with whatever you decide!
(PS- if you are moving the dates and not cancelling the wedding, it is likely that the vendors will work with you if you give plenty of notice. You might lose parts of the deposit, but probably not all of it)
Post # 6
Congrats on the baby! Even unplanned, it’s still exciting!
I would start by calling your vendors and explain the situation. Either try to move the date up a few months, or back. If the vendors are on board, then send out new STDs.
Post # 7
All it takes is one phonecall to the venue to find out. Chances are they’ll let you just move the date – I know ours would have. If you’ve been planning for two years you’d probably appreciate a separate time to plan for a baby and a wedding – that is, postpone it a few months.
Give it some time and you can always send out “Save a different date but we have big news!” postcards.
Post # 8
@brutalbaby13: That’s a tough one :-/ Rules and restrictions will vary from venue to venue, so you’ll just have to call around on that one and address them on a case-by-case basis.
You may have the option of moving the dates up, moving them back, or even getting married pregnant 🙂 I have seen several lovely brides who were near their due date when they got married, there’s no shame in that!
Try not to panic, and keep us posted!
Post # 9
Wow, exciting! And also stressful, I get that. Before you worst-case-scenerio-panic about everything, call your vendors and discuss your options. If I were you I’d be open to either moving the date up a couple months, or back – whatever they can work with you on. I would hold off on dress shopping until you get all that figured out, so that you know if you need a dress that works with a belly or not.
Congrats! 🙂 Deep breaths, it will all work out.
Post # 10
I havent even told the fiance… I said there could be chance but his away at the moment and tried calling but no signal. So feel a lone at the moment. Only took teh test about an hour ago. I would probably postpone, my worry also is having a baby and a wedding close to one another it will probably double our savinbgs for the wedding as have to save for the baby to? I have been looking forward to getting married so much, I am upset to be honest. But if we can postpone will the venue, band, photographer and cars minda year or so gap?
Post # 11
I wouldn’t postpone. I’d do the wedding first. Once the baby comes, the last thing you’ll want to do is plan a wedding or a honeymoon!
Post # 12
@itsmle: I dunno. Maybe it was different because I had a year of mat-leave, but it was a blessing to have that extra time to plan a wedding. The first 3-4 months was blissful (despite the lack of sleep).
I guess it depends on how your baby is, how big the wedding is, etc.
If the venue’s allow though, maybe planning to have the wedding earlier would be better for you? Then it is all done and you can focus on baby 🙂
Post # 13
@brutalbaby13: aw yes not an ideal situation, but an exciting one nonetheless.
Def. start calling (highest deposits first) and see what you options are. If you can postpone without giving a date right now, cool! Otherwise you will need to figire out if you want to move it up or push it back – just take a deep breath and wait til you talk to FI. You can make the calls next week.
Post # 14
@brutalbaby13: I’m going to PM you my response.