Post # 1
I am so angry right now its probaby a combination of many things, but the Bees who know might be able to understand where I am coming from.
As many of you know my finacial situation has changed dramatically when I said yes to my FI started to combine our money and moved in together. Since this has happened I have started to go to the Gym I workout 4 days out of the week I have lost 27lbs, so far. 😉 I have even gone to a real salon to have my hair done and I have actual bought myself new and alot more stylish clothing. I have gone from MomFrumpy to a Hot Momma!
I was out to lunch with a few of my friends and told them that I was thinking about back to school and getting my business license and starting my own company. For the past 10 years I have made and sold Lingerie for my friends and I always have more orders than I could handle on my own. I have 39 orders right now.
They were shocked and made several of hand comments that I have become Uppity! And that my man’s money had gone to my head! Before he and I got together I always paid my bills by myself every single month, and I have always provided for my children.
I will admitt that since my FI and I have got togther that I have changed I am alot happy and I don’t have to worry about money the way I use to. But I don’t think I have been acting Uppity or been having an Ego trip.
I really feel like I’m just trying to better myself. I am really hurt right now, b/c I feel like they aren’t happy for me.
Which do you think?
Post # 3
Keep moving forward! Any change is bound to meet resistance. Stay focused on how YOU feel; it’s okay to have a thicker skin and be joyful for the life you have now without guilt. Do you have an etsy shop?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
It definitely sounds like you are just trying to better yourself. Your friends are just not used to the new you that is more confident and secure.
I also want to know if you have an etsy shop 😉 Self promo is against the TOS but maybe you can PM if you have one??
Post # 5
Don’t let anyone tell you that getting an education and setting career goals for yourself is “uppity!” That’s just ridiculous.
That said, if you spend a lot of time talking about your new good fortune around them, or telling them about all the new ways you’re spending your time (nails, salon, etc.) it could seem insensitive, self-absorbed, or irritating. So try to make sure you’re talking about their lives at least as much or more than you talk about your own when you get together.
Post # 6
I am not on etsy, b/c of the way I work I have over 24 designs in mutiple different fabrics. I measure each lady and ask them what excatly they want the type of fit they want and and I make it for them and only them. Because one size definately does not it all! And everyone desreves to feel beautiful and sexy.
It hurts me so much that they have been and are still my customers and have told me that my lingerie has help keep the fires burning so to speak it. And they think that I couldn’t sucessfully run a real business. Today alone I have just had 4 customers double their orders. And I have 14 appointments for next week alone.
Post # 7
@ashasmith: i think it’s wonderful that you are making personal goals. if you don’t, then you remain stagnant. improving your education is always a positive move. good luck with your new business venture.
Post # 8
I think even just losing weight can motivate you to look better overall. I know it has for me and my financial status is the same lol.
Post # 9
You could still set up an etsy shop showing the lingerie you have done as samples and offering bespoke services!
I don’t agree with your friends…I’m happy for you! Sometimes people tend to be a little skeptical …you should just do what you intend to do.
Post # 10
Everyone deserves to be happy, especially if they work hard for it. Still, it’s always good to be self aware. If your friends aren’t the type to normally say hurtful things for no good reason, maybe take it as an opportunity to reflect on how you’re coming across to other people. I for instance, have been raised with the belief that it’s somewhat crass to talk about money/finances/how much money you have. So it doesn’t impress me when people “name drop” things about their life, like how much they are spending or whatever the case may be. Just being happy is reward enough.
Post # 11
Sometimes decisions like going back to school, starting a new business, changing careers, moving overseas, etc are perceived as risky by others and you’re likely to get some pessimistic comments about it (or a lot of “what if” comments). Don’t let that stop you. Smile and change the subject. If you have been making and selling lingerie for 10 years and you have the drive and the resources now to grow your business, go for it!
Post # 12
Just going to toss out there that it sounds like they’re jealous. I think wanting to go into business for yourself is a great idea and definitely NOT ego related.
Post # 14
You are changing for the better and they’re not. That”s why you are “uppity” because you are going forward with your life and doing something you love. They don’t have the opportunity to do that. I hope they change their attitude and let themselves be happy for you.