- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I am just in shock right now, probably because the anger & disappointment & sheer disbelief of it all has worn off.
I found out tonight that my dad may not be coming to the wedding, because he may have a ‘good job’. Now none of you know me or my dad, so I guess now is the time to explain–my dad works when he wants. He contracts out his own labor and brings in between 2.5-4k a *week* and he only works for 6 months or so out of the year becauase he doesn’t need to work the entire year to have a comfortable living. (My mom has a full time job as a business administrator too.) He takes jobs when he wants and doesn’t when he wants. About 2 weeks ago my mom said if dad doesn’t work now he’ll have to when my wedding is here…and I laughed, naturally thinking she is ribbing me…apparently NOT. However, he’s still starting work next week and they’ve known for a year that the date is June 2, 2012. We got engaged Dec 2010…it was planned almost instantly–this isn’t ‘new’ news.
I’m so honestly shocked and disappointed because my parents didn’t raise me this way–to be so callous and unthoughtful of others’ feelings, especially my own family. And that’s how they’re treating me. I gave up all Christmas presents for me and my fiancee so we could go down there for Thanksgiving–instead asking for money to fund the trip so we could SEE them because that is what was important for us (we also have a 3 year old son, only his second time to go down there). I talk to my mom every day since moving away 3 years ago and I send my parents and grandparents pictures, texts, presents, cards, call them & keep up with what is going on with them and my grandparents are amazing people (mom’s parents) and never have anything but time for us.
I can’t believe this on another level because this is another chance my parents would have to see Seth, my son, and they’re just throwing it away. But we’re harrassed about why we don’t come to see them more often. I’m just at my wit’s end. I’ve about decided to ask my brother to walk me down the aisle, because I don’t think I can depend on my dad and I don’t want to be stuck without. This is not ok for them to treat me so cavalierly and with such lack of respect. I could understand if I had just gotten engaged and said the wedding was in a couple months. But it’s not that way at all.
Oh Bees I’m so upset 🙁