"Just use a condom, it's that easy"

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: What do you think about condoms?
    I don't even notice them. : (135 votes)
    29 %
    They're a little less comfortable, but hey, it's safe. : (208 votes)
    45 %
    They hurt and/or are extremely uncomfortable. : (83 votes)
    18 %
    Other? [Elaborate] : (34 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @OnceUponATime:  I agree 100% with you. It doesn’t matter what anyones says… condoms do NOT feel good! For either of us. It actually ruins the mood because it feels so different. It was a little TOO bold for you doctor to have said that…

    Post # 4
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wow, he was way out of line. He’s not qualified to adjust your prescription meds and frankly it’s none of his business. If you definitely don’t want to get pregnant, I would stay on the pill. Especially if you don’t have any reason not to be on it. If you’re worried about iron levels, you can easily have them tested, but being on birth control shouldn’t make you anemic.

    Post # 5
    4750 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted other, I haven’t used a condom in at least 12 years! Yikes, writing that out seems crazy, but DH and I have been together for 14. Even back when we used them, I didn’t really notice them. 

    Either way, I think the response from your doctor was definitely unprofessional. 

    Post # 6
    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I cannot stand condoms at all and I am a little bit traumatized from our last experience with one, I don’t know what happened but a chunk of the tip broke off inside of me and caused a lot or irritation and pain during sex… that was the last of them for us.

    I also find it incredibly ignorant to say that it isn’t a big deal to get pregnant because you are married – just because it may be more moral to have a child after marriage doesn’t mean that you are at all prepared to bring a child into the world.

    I likely would’ve gave him a piece of my mind for saying that.

    Post # 9
    24457 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Wow I would be out the door with that doctor and never look back.  He has no right to dictate what medication you take and say that it’s okay to use a BC method that might not be effective because you are married!

    I don’t really like condoms either and I have to be on hormonal BC because of endometriosis.

    Post # 10
    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Other,never had sex without a condom, so I don’t know the difference tbh

    Post # 11
    6671 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    He sounds like an idiot. I would not go to a doctor who acted that way.

    Post # 12
    1464 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @OnceUponATime:  He was completely out of line. I especially found the second comment awful “You’ve done your dutiful womanly duty of marriage. now that is out of the way, we can start your future as a breeding machine”

    Post # 13
    920 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    is that type of doctor even qualified to give that sort of advice??! that’s like my eye doctor talking about my reproductive health… 

    Post # 14
    1173 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @JessicaJupiter:  Since when is it “more moral”? Sorry, I get the gist of what you’re saying and totally agree the doctor was out of line… but I had to call you on that.

    @OnceUponATime:  I’ve tried to switch to condoms on two separate occasions (when I was having problems with hormonal BC) but I can’t stand them, ultimately. They HURT, I find them so abrasive and sex is painful with them, no matter how much lube. I too have tried many different ypes and brands, and can sympathize. Also, ditch that doctor ASAP!

    Post # 15
    11626 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What I think about condoms doesn’t matter.  What does matter is, you don’t like it.  Your doctor shouldn’t criticize.

    At the same time, a natural doctor is probably going to discourage taking most medications because of their chosen profession.  It was inappropriate of him to say what he did in the manner that it was said, but it’s not entirely unexpected coming from a natural doctor. 

    Post # 16
    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    DH and I have almost exclusively used condoms for the last 4 years. I tried a few different BCP but they made my body and/or mind go crazy so I stopped trying. We have had sex without a condom during those times, and yes it obviously feels good to go without! But because we don’t want to get pregnant yet, a condom is our only option. 

    If you do want to try them out again, I suggest going to condomdepot.com (I think!) and you can order a tin of their “best” and highest rated condoms for the last year…there are so many choices! Plus there are different lubes ect. We tried them all out and DH and I decided together the best one for both of us! We use the Crown brand because they are super thin and we’ve never had a breaking or scare in years since we switched! We both barely feel it. 

    Now obviously this may not work for you, your body chemistry might not like condoms, but if you and your husband are up for it, you could try to find a brand that works! 

    Im sorry your doctor said those things, I hate when you walk our feeling offended at a comment, I’ve had that happen before too. Good luck! 

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