Post # 1
Yesterday I was a little bit sad. Me and my boyfriend were in the car (hour and a half drive) and we were talking, and I asked something silly like: “What would be da first thing you do if you won the lotery?” the he looked at me and replied: “I would take you out for dinner.” And the conversation was over.
Well, maybe I’m just being childish but I was kind of hopping for a bigger thing, am I silly? I mean, you would win the lotery 150.000.000 Euros in my country, and what would you do? Take your girlfriend to dinner, like that was something you can only do with that kind of money…
He asked me what I would do and I quickly replied “taking a trip or something” but I was sad and didn’t want to tell him what was on my head, I mean… If I was him, with a long term girlfriend that loves him, cares for him, I would have said something like: “I don’t know, marry you and go on a big trip together to some heaven beach” or something like that! but no… he would take me out to dinner… like that is the special kind of treatment I deserve 🙁
I was just sad to realise that marriage wasn’t, and isn’t anywhere near his head.
Sorry if I seam childish or materialistic… I am not… his words just hit me hard. Thank you for listening (reading..).
Post # 3
*hugs* Or he is too shy to tell you what he is thinking.
OR he was thinking “take you out to dinner” when really he was thinking “Buy out the whole resurutant, have an amazing meal and propose to you” but didn’t say it out loud.
Hopefully this made sense, I’ve had three large glasses of wine, it makes sense to me. 😛
Post # 4
Well, to be fair, you asked him what the FIRST thing he’d do would be. Maybe he was taking you literally?
Post # 5
@valintine: Great point. Like, that evening he takes you out to a fancy dinner to celebrate.
Post # 6
@valintine: Maybe you’re right…
Post # 7
That would be the first thing I would do! Go out to eat a nice dinner while we discuss our plans for the rest of the money! It sound like he was being silly, trying to be extra sweet about the fact that he would rather take you on a date than do something extravagant! I would have been like, “Nice one, cheeseball, but what would you do NEXT?”
Post # 9
I’d really try to not be upset about it…would you rather he say that he’s go buy himself some sports car or something? Because I’m sure a lot of guys would, at least his answer involved you somewhat! You asked him a question that could’ve had about a thousand different answers, and he did not pick the exact specific one you were looking for – that doesn’t say anything about your relationship or how he feels about you, it just says that the guy isn’t psychic! Most guys don’t take well to hints – if you want to discuss marriage or the future with them, you have to be more direct about it.
Post # 10
He could be one of those people who don’t like hypotheticals! If you ask my Fiance or my Mom where they would live if they could live anywhere in the world, the BOTH say “I don’t know. I haven’t been everywhere in the world.”
Post # 11
You’re over thinking things. I think that’s a nice thing to say. x