Just waiting nervously, strict dad … Need som advice please

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My father was very strict growing up. When my first husband appraoch him about marriage, my dad was reluctant but realized we had already made up our minds. It was better to involved in my life, even if it wasn’t with the right man (in my case), than to lose me.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Giswhatibee:  I am sure that if you have been with your SO for 8 yrs, your Dad is fine with him, or you would know for sure by now, that he wasn’t.

I suggest it would be very courteous and respectful for your SO to learn how to ask for your Dad’s blessing in Spanish. I think your Dad would value that.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@julies1949:  Injust want to second that idea – it would both show respect and show that he’s putting effort in

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2000

It’s possible your dad is patiently waiting for your fellow to make his move after all this time!  Help your sweetheart work out what he will say in Spanish. I’m sure your dad was just as nervous when he asked for your mom’s hand in marriage and he will secretly feel sympathetic. He just won’t show it ;). That’s his job!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - saint patricks parish

@Giswhatibee:  I havent expreinced it personally but I do have a soulution, you can translate it from your so to your father and vice versa. Since your so doesn’t feel comfortable at your house why not suggest a family dinner or something?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@Giswhatibee:  I haven’t had a similar experience, but maybe you could help your SO to learn enough Spanish to be able to ask your dad in his native tongue. I think that would make your dad realize that he is making an effort, and that he really does want to be a part of your family. Just an idea!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Consider filming something and have your SO narrate it in Spanish, it could be quite fun 🙂

Talk about your lives, your lives together and hopes for your future.

Would your SO consider learning Spanish for you in future? It would be a nice gesture towards your family. Your dad might be worried future generations will forget their roots.

It must be hard for the both of them with the language barrier.

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