Post # 1
I have had the worst ordeal with finding bridesmaids dresses and at this stage I’m almost wishing I hadn’t asked anyone and just gone it alone! I have 3 bridesmaids and they are completely different sizes and shapes: one is short and tiny, one is really tall and more to the larger size, and the other is short and has recently had a baby (my sister) and still has the baby weight. I have been looking for bridesmaid dresses for over a year now and I’m exhausted. I had dresses made about a year ago from a shop on etsy. They came in about 6 months later and were the most horrid, badly made, dress up looking dresses possible. I could have cried, and the designer tried to tell me it was my misunderstanding. I got half my money back eventually but still was out of pocket about $300. Then I found the most beautiful dresses online and on a significant sale (ones I had been drooling over for ages!) so I bought them…but it was not to be, the biggest size available did not fit the larger of my bridesmaid so I had to return them. I then went shopping with the larger bridesmaid, thinking if I could find something that worked for her then we would be right (its had getting all of my bridesmaids to come out especially my sister). We found a beautifu dress and I bought it in all sizes needed as that was easier than getting my sister to the shop and they had a complete refund policy). It ended up looking terrible on the other bridesmaids so I returned it. I then convinced all of the bridesmaids to come out today to go shopping (it was an effort) and found some lovely dresses to try on. My sister complained a bit at the beginning but we eventually agreed on a dress that I really liked it. I thought it was all over then I got home my sister call me to come over for coffee, which I did, and she says “I think we can find something better, it’s not unique enough”. I was at a loss!!! I’m so over it, really I’m done. I have been to that many shops, I have looked at macy’s, nordstrom, saks etc (I live in Australia, so I would have to ship) and cannot find anything. I’m not looking for something bridesmaid-y, I want something a little different but elegant and lovely. A print is different enough, I just dont want the typical bridesmaid dress. Sorry for the rant and the complaining, but I’m so over it! Can anyone suggest somewhere that I haven’t looked? Any ideas? I’ve attached the photos of the dress I liked today.
Post # 3
@melbgirl: To make it easier for you, you might want to just let them get their own dresses with some strict guidelines. Different style, similar colour dresses are in fashion. This might be the easiest way to go about this. You don’t have to get the dresses in the exact colour. Blue, navy blue, cobalt. The different colours give the bridal party photos some depth.
Post # 4
I think that dress is beautiful! You are the bride… if you really like the dresses from the last trip, be done with it. It sounds like you are at your wits end. The designer that has made my bridesmaid dresses, Amsale, is doing bridemaid prints… I think it is a great look!
Post # 5
It’s a beautiful dress! But I can’t imagine it looking good on larger sizes. However if they all looked nice in it, just stick with it!
Post # 6
That dress is gorgeous, and if they looked pretty good in it, stick with it. Put your foot down, tell your sister you like it, she looked pretty in it, and that’s what you are going with. That dress will really compliment a white wedding dress.
Post # 7
The way I see it, you have two options:
- Tell them this is the dress. Period. My isn’t it nice to have a decision after all this time.
- Let them pick their own dress. This is what I did, since I had drastically different body types. Specify as much as you want and then let them worry about it.
Post # 8
@melbgirl: Tell your sister to suck it up and wear the dress. It’s not her wedding to decide that there may be something “better” out there–the dress is pretty all bridesmaids can wear it. Don’t be a pushover! It’s one dress for one day, she can manage.
Post # 9
@melbgirl: I totally agree with spiffanee. And by the way, it IS unique, very unique, and totally fits your vision of something a little different but still so, so elegant. (In fact, I used the word “elegant” here before I realized you used it yourself to describe the dress. That was the word that came to mind.) Where did you purchase that dress? I think it is fantastic.
After all that effort, you’ve found something that works for you AND them. Enough already, sis. It is totally unique. She is just wanting to get something different for herself because she didn’t like it in the first place and you had to convince her. Stand your ground.
Post # 10
@melbgirl: I just had to find out about your gown and venue, and WOW! These Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns will look perfect with your venue, flowers, and your gown. Very unique, not bridesmaid-y, and if they look good on all the girls-You are Done. Your BM/sister can make it more unique/”better” with adding jewelry.
Post # 11
Love that dress, it’s from forevet new – FAV shop. They have a few other dresses there now too But I do love that one. Agree with the sucking up party; it’s you and your SOs day. Not hers. She could get a nice chunky necklace or a pretty belt so she’s seen as “unique” Or you could let them pick their own with guidelines. ie. only from that shop. Their whole collection works well.
Or You could try seduce brand, they had some nice ones as did villians (which is mostly block colour tho) but I dont think you can go wrong with that one.
Post # 12
@melbgirl: I’d tell her to suck it up. The dress is unique.
Post # 13
The dress you picked is gorgeous! If they really can’t agree on a style then I’d go with a store like alfred angelo where you can just pick a color swatch & the girls can choose their own dress styles. They’re pretty affordable too.
Post # 14
If their bodies are really different, give them a colour swatch and let them find something, within whatever boundaries you want to set (length, fabric, straps, etc). If you do that, and your sister still gives you attitude, then let her have it. Enough is enough.
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for your comments and suggestions – they were very helpful! I decided to go to one last store myself and have a look. The dresses were amazing so I got my sister to come with me the next day. I showed her the ones I liked, she really liked one of them and that was it! The other bridesmaids love the dress too and everyone is happy 🙂 The dresses were a little pricier than I wanted to spend but at this point I was just happy to find something that everyone liked that was pretty, so worth the money. They look great on all of my girls, and suit my vintage-y/country style wedding perfectly. With the bouquet of hydrangeas they will look phenomenal! I’m really happy!! I’ve attached pics but they don’t do the dress justice.
What does everyone think?
And my flowers (with a different coloured rose/flower as yellow will clash):
Post # 16
They are lovley! Can I ask where you found them? I’m so happy that its all sorted!