Just want to cry….bridesmaid drama

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@melbgirl:  To make it easier for you, you might want to just let them get their own dresses with some strict guidelines. Different style, similar colour dresses are in fashion. This might be the easiest way to go about this. You don’t have to get the dresses in the exact colour. Blue, navy blue, cobalt. The different colours give the bridal party photos some depth.

Post # 4
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think that dress is beautiful!  You are the bride… if you really like the dresses from the last trip, be done with it.  It sounds like you are at your wits end.  The designer that has made my bridesmaid dresses, Amsale, is doing bridemaid prints… I think it is a great look!


Good luck!

Post # 5
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s a beautiful dress! But I can’t imagine it looking good on larger sizes. However if they all looked nice in it, just stick with it!

Post # 6
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That dress is gorgeous, and if they looked pretty good in it, stick with it. Put your foot down, tell  your sister you like it, she looked pretty in it, and that’s what you are going with. That dress will really compliment a white wedding dress.

Post # 7
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The way I see it, you have two options:

  1. Tell them this is the dress. Period. My isn’t it nice to have a decision after all  this time.
  2. Let them pick their own dress. This is what I did, since I had drastically different body types. Specify as much as you want and then let them worry about it.

Post # 8
1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@melbgirl:  Tell your sister to suck it up and wear the dress. It’s not her wedding to decide that there may be something “better” out there–the dress is pretty all bridesmaids can wear it. Don’t be a pushover! It’s one dress for one day, she can manage.

Post # 9
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@melbgirl:  I totally agree with spiffanee. And by the way, it IS unique, very unique, and totally fits your vision of something a little different but still so, so elegant. (In fact, I used the  word “elegant” here before I realized you used it yourself to describe the dress. That was the word that came to mind.) Where did you purchase that dress? I think it is fantastic.


After all that effort, you’ve found something that works for you AND them. Enough already, sis. It is totally unique. She is just wanting to get something different for herself because she didn’t like it in the first place and you had to convince her. Stand your ground.


Post # 10
7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@melbgirl:  I just had to find out about your gown and venue, and WOW! These BM gowns will look perfect with your venue, flowers, and your gown.  Very unique, not bridesmaid-y, and if they look good on all the girls-You are Done.  Your BM/sister can make it more unique/”better” with adding jewelry.  

Post # 11
291 posts
Helper bee

Love that dress, it’s from forevet new – FAV shop. They have a few other dresses there now too But I do love that one. Agree with the sucking up party; it’s you and your SOs day. Not hers. She could get a nice chunky necklace or a pretty belt so she’s seen as “unique” Or you could let them pick their own with guidelines. ie. only from that shop. Their whole collection works well. 

Or You could try seduce brand, they had some nice ones as did villians (which is mostly block colour tho) but I dont think you can go wrong with that one. 


Post # 12
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@melbgirl:  I’d tell her to suck it up. The dress is unique. 

Post # 13
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The dress you picked is gorgeous! If they really can’t agree on a style then I’d go with a store like alfred angelo where you can just pick a color swatch & the girls can choose their own dress styles. They’re pretty affordable too.


Post # 14
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If their bodies are really different, give them a colour swatch and let them find something, within whatever boundaries you want to set (length, fabric, straps, etc). If you do that, and your sister still gives you attitude, then let her have it. Enough is enough.  

Post # 16
291 posts
Helper bee

They are lovley! Can I ask where you found them? I’m so happy that its all sorted!

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