Just want to cry…bridesmaid dress drama!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Since your bridesmaids are all different shapes and sizes its going to be hard to find a dress that works on all 3. Why not let them get different style dresses in the same colour – that way they can all have a dress that latters but its still cohesive. 


Also I really like the dress you posted!

Post # 4
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If everyone agreed to the dress you posted, then stick with it. Don’t let your sister get in your head!

Post # 5
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The dress you picked is beautiful.. And I would totally wear it again. 


Post # 6
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@melbgirl:  Sounds to me that the only problem is your inability to say no. You found a dress you like. You bought it. When your sister says I think we can find something better, your response should have been no.

End of story. No need for a rant.

Post # 7
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just tell your sister the decision is made. This wedding is about you and your FI, not her.

ETA   She doesn’t want this dress because “it’s not unique enough“?  You have gone out of your way to find a dress that you and the girls  like, and she was there when you decided on this dress. She agreed on the choice at the time. She won’t be the first member of the bridal party to want a different dress and she won’t be the last. She should be gracious enough to just wear the dress.




Post # 8
2394 posts
Buzzing bee



I agree — just pick a color (rather than a print, which is going to be way too complicated if you’re dealing with different sizes and styles) and let everyone get their own dress. 


 Either that or stick with what you’ve already picked out, and tell your sister she’s just going to have to deal with it.






Post # 9
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ok this is weird, I posted a comment here eariler and now it’s gone….

What I said was I think the dress you posted looks lovely.  If you decided on the dress then that’s the end of it.  You are the bride.  The designer that I got my bridesmaid dresses from, Amsale is doing prints for bridesmaids and they look fun.  I think prints are a lovely look for weddings. 

Just let her know the decision has been made.  You have been looking a long time. 


Good luck!


Post # 10
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@julies1949:  you said

Just tell your sister the decision is made. This wedding is about you and your FI, not her.

Well, not exactly. But onto the topic at hand–

This bride has already expended a ton of effort on dresses and I wonder, at this point, what would be the easiet course of action from here? It seems unnecessarily crazy making to get everyone into the same dress that is someone’s “vision.” Pick a color and have the ‘maids buy their own dresses. Even though they won’t be matchy matchy and even thought the colors will likely not be exactly the same–I’d advise the OP to stop expending resources on stuff that doesn’t really matter.

I happen to love that last bridesmaid dress, but then I like watercolor fabrics. Many people do not.

Post # 11
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@melbgirl:  either tell your sister to suck it up and deal (particularly if you are paying for the dress) or just let them select their own. They don’t all have to be in the same dress. If you want a unified look you can select a color or print and length but let them pick the dress style.

honestly though, it sounds like you have found a good dress so personally, I think you should tell your sister to put a sock in it.

Post # 12
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

When I was initially reading your post, I thought I was going to suggest the different dresses route. But if you found something that you all liked and your sister didn’t think it fit the vision, too bad. It’s not her choice to make. I’m all about making bridesmaids comfortable but clearly you have really put effort in. Plus it’s not like she looks terrible in it, she just doesn’t think the style is right. Too bad for her.

Post # 13
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Stick with what you like and your sister will wear it, 

Post # 14
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I really like the dress you posted!

Post # 16
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It’s your wedding – they should wear what you want them to wear! Maybe pick a color, length, and designer and have them pick from there!

By the way, where is that blue printed dress from?? It’s beautiful!! I love it.

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