- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Just need to vent Bees, hope you can relate.
SO and I moved in together at the end of July, and it has been absolutely great. Obviously it hasn’t been very long, but it really has strengthened our relationship.
We’ve been doing so well that I have lately had these really strong feelings of WANTING to get engaged/married soon and really wanting a baby in the next 2 years or so. Not right this minute, but definitely sooner rather than later.
It’s the old biological clock (tick tock).
We’re both 30. We don’t have lots and lots of time. Add to that, very close family members (including one our age) and a former law school classmate (who is my age) have been diagnosed with very serious (stage 3+) cancer, and it’s making me realize that life is short. I don’t want to wait for things anymore. I just want to live.
I’m just wondering if I should calm down, wait on this for about 2 weeks to see if this feeling subsides, and then talk to SO, or talk to SO now about these feelings. We’ve talked timeline a little, and a few months ago he said about a year to get engaged but didn’t want to give me any details because “it’s supposed to be a surprise.” He hasn’t indicated recently though any indicators that would lead me to believe that we actually will get engaged in that time frame, namely that we are going on a cruise that we are saving up for at the end of April, and there are some other big-ticket items he wants to buy (a t.v. for our house, which I’ve agreed to), and I just don’t see how he could be saving on the side for a ring. I have told him I don’t need an expensive ring, and actually really love Moissy, which tends to be less expensive anyway (not the reason I like it).
Oh, and I’ve made it known to him before that I am not a big fancy expensive wedding girl, but a DIY, budget, in a fire hall kind of wedding gal (so huge budget, $$$ not required).
Ugh. What should I do?
ETA: I want to be married before having a baby. That’s why I’m thinking marriage timeline along with the baby timeline.